Friends ex?

Okay, my friend of a few years was seeing a guy for a few months. She really liked him, but he treated her badly, constantly cheated on her and was just an idiot in general. They've been split a while now, say 8 months.

I have been out on a few nights out recently and have bumped in to him. My friend was not with me. We had a drink and caught up, had a chat. Long story short, we ended up kissing. Following weekend, this Friday past, same thing happened. Straight away I thought that nothing serious would ever happen between us, at least nothing serious. I have heard from my friend what he can be like and I dont want to get involved with that...Im happy single anyway at the minute. Problem is, after the last time I kissed him I can feel myself starting to like him. I promised that I wouldnt because it would be too awkward between my friend and I.

Either way now Im gonna have to tell my friend about what has happened, even though I really think its in everyones best interests to tell him where to go and why. I could be selfish and not tell her nothing, but some mutual friends have seen us, so I need to tell her before someone else does. I know straight off she's going to be really angry with me (a friend of ours is seeing a guy she just kissed once ages ago and she was far impressed at that) and this will probably put a wedge in our friendship.

Do I tell her? How would I approach it? Ahhhh what a mess

Honesty is the best policy

Tried to post this once but computer crashed so sorry if you receive it twice.

First of all you need to ask the question is it worth losing your friend over a confirmed liar and cheat?

Then you need to limit the damage to your friendship. She WILL find out at some point and is better to be honest with your frineds anyway. I was in the same situation years ago. I gave my firend warning that I was coming around for a 'talk' so she wasn't totally surprised. Then I went to her house, that way we were on her territory and she woudl feel more comfortable. i was open and honest with her and explained how much i valued our frinedship. She was quite forgiving (but then she did have a new boyfriend).

As for the guy I suspect you had had a couple of drinks and people who are 'off liimits' can often be more attractive to a person. I woudl forget about him and never let it happen again. Like you said you are a happy single anyway!

hope that helps