Having problems with by ex wife and child please help

ive been with my bf for 2 years now and when i first started seeing him i knew he had a son, but he diddnt see him much because his ex wife wouldnt let him used kid as a wepon, trump card to try and get back with him ,and caused us problems in genral etc...


reacently she has decided to start letting bf see his son again,
im having such a hard time having to try and ajust to this situation as the last two years have just been me and my bf on our own.
i dont have any children of my own, i dont understand the bond between them.
i dont want to sound horribel but some times i just wish she wasnt letting him see his son like she did before


now he wants to move her up here so he can spend more time with his son and for us all to go on holiday together!


i just dont know if il be able to cope, every time she doesnt want him to see his son, some how its my fault and i have to keep my distance in my own home or bf cant see his son, then my bf will tell me not to make him choose bettwen me and his son but im not, it doesnt matter how many times i tell him.


bf has even said if he wasnt with me he would get back with ex wife just so he could see his son.


i fight my corner when she ... about me,and told bf i dont want her in the house or playing tag along when she drops of his son, but once again she just uses it as an excuesse, i feel realy traped and as much as i love my bf i feel like walking, i realy am at breaking point!

please has any one got any advice i dont think im a horrible person im just having a very difficult time.

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Hi there.....i think every father has a right to see his son wenever he wants and i dont think it would be nice i she just droped him off at the door and necer came in....my step mother dosent smile at my mum wen she comes around and its to rude the way she behaves am not saying that you behave this way bt my mum dosent come around to make her jelous our anything she comes around to visit me and her son or to talk to my father about her other two sons too.....anyway you knew when you got together with him that he had a son even if he didnt see him that much you always have to think anything can change especially when it comes to children....i do have to say one thing tho i beleive that your bf has no right saying that if he wasnt with you he would be with her instead i really think thats wrong the problem here isnt the son or ex wife its him you really need to make sure hes with you for the right reasons.....the situation will never change when it comes to hius son and she will always be in your bfs life and if you dont want this complication then maybe you should move on and be happy with some one with no attachments.