Help dont know what too do

well where do i start my heads so messed up ive been with my boyfriend 4 years hes a muslim after 6 weeks being with him he told me he was getting married but i was silly wish i cud turn back time i stayed with him he said he had too do it for his family but then i had a child too him he has no kids too his wife then i had other with him i also have a child my self an he as brougth her up from her being 6 weeks old but he only cums once or twise a week an he says thats all i can do he works but me head is so mess up with it all dont know what too do is eney body out there been thow this or going thow this nw please help

I am not surprised - complicated

I have muslim friends and know what family pressure and need to comply means - basically some people end up leading lives that they dont want, the men cheat and the women let them.

However, you have a child to him which is going to make it really hard and how does he understand that daddy only visits a couple of times a week? Do you not want a father figure for him that is a constant instead of a cant have?

I think you are obvioulsy besotted otherwise you wouldnt have tolerated the lack of commitment for so long. He gets best of both worlds in this - has you and kiddy and goes back to wife to keep family sweet. It simply cant go on and he wont leave - or I will be hugely shocked if he did!

Real happiness comes from equality and the reason you arent is because you dont have this, its his terms and thats it. I think you should seriously cut off the sex and ask that he is a dad only and that you need to look for someone else. For as long as you sleep together you wont move on, I have been there!

Hope this helps, probably doesnt cos its not what you want to hear and I am probably on the verge of not talking sense but best of luck xx Your child is whats important and seeing mummy being used isnt how you want him/her to relate to his partners in the future? is it?

Mak x

Thaks

thank you for replying too that an i know he talkes too me like ... an seems like he doesnt want me in his life never got time for us but when i do avoed him he all over me likk a bad smell an i have 2 kids too him not just one

Move on

What this man is doing is totally against his religion I dnt know how he can even call himself a muslim! Islam is about respecting women regardless of faith, colour etc.... Alot of asian men like to keep their families sweet by having an arranged marriage (not forced just arranged) and then having a lil on da side. Many marry illiterate girls who dnt have a choice but to stay in the relationship although they know their partner is cheating... sorry! getting back to the point this man is using u! Find someone who will be there for u for the good times and bad not somebody who messes with your head and uses ur body. Let him see his kids a few times a week, make plans when he sees the kids so u get a break and so that he doesnt have the opportunity to spend time with u. Dnt waste any more years on this man, he is never gona do right by you.