Is he hiding something??

I need advice as to whether I am just being paranoid or if my man is up to something.

I've been seeing a guy for nearly a year now and he has started to move some of his things into my house. For the last 2years he has lived with his parents following the breakdown of his marriage. Our relationship is great but the things that concern me are the following: - I've never met any of his friends or family (including his children although he is fully involved in my children's lives), he won't answer his phone to me if he is in his parents house, his phone is constantly on silent or switched off in his pocket, he makes arrangements to go somewhere and tells me at last minute that it's a last minute thing when he has arranged it way before.

He appears to be committed to our relationship when he is with me and talks openly about our future but through all our chats he never says when he wants to bring his children into our life. He is very wary of upsetting his parents as they have stayed close to his ex and doesn't even refer to me by name when talking to them. I have found out now that he isn't divorced but he assures me he is going through that process at the moment. I have no idea if he really is.

Your thoughts would be helpful as I feel at my wits end as to what to do.

He is hiding something

im really sorry for saying this but from the sound of it his still with his ex, all the signs are there with the phone an not meeting his kids, i went out with some one 2 years agout for the same amount of time he had 2 kids an i never met them his phone was turned off 80% of the day could only call him when he was at work then i fount out he was still married, i think the best thing you could do is sit him down an ask him but look at the way he answers you an the tone of his voice there you will find your real answer

Is he hiding something......

Oh dear you have asked and answered your own question........a year has gone by and you have given your all......as women usually do...but he is not being fair or even respectful of you and your children. He may profess to love you and care but actions always speak louder. He has not been honest about his marriage even if he is getting divorced....he hid the fact. His children are too good and need protection from you and your children.......dear, get on with it ...... he is on the rebound and you are being used.....start moving him out and do not look back. Even if he does get divorced.....he will not commit again to someone......that is one selfish man and you and the children are being used. Find someone that cares....that is proud to sport you about and keep your children at bay for at least 6 months.....they are going to crushed when this guy walks on them ....you are putting yourselves in the line of fire. Get him out of your house and life.

I hope it helps you

hello missjiggles,
i think there are two posibilities. the first one is, he is still together with his wife and he is lying you from the beginning. well, may be they are not living together any more, but they are spliting up right now. So he is telling you the facts in advance.

And the second one is, he is really scared of another relationship and want to be really sure of it before he makes up you and his family-friends. men are like that. my ex-boyfriend needed one and half year, till he told his mother about me, and i never met anoyone of his family. well, they live in another country, but it was very wierd for me. The men need much more longer than us for everything.

If i were you, i would check first if he is telling you the truth about his life now and for how long in fact he moved on to his parents. If the story is like he told you, you should say to him you need more commitment, to be involved "de facto" in his live. Beginn with some of his friends and after that can come the family.

good luck

Wary...

you should be wary...
you might end yourself a mistress....
have an open talk with him...
and tell him how you feel about
your relationship....

A right to wonder

Hi. I would wonder to if this was a pottential relationship because if hes going to make an effort he would want his kids thoughts on the situation and would need to know how they felt aswell so be careful here he could just need to get out of mum and dads hair and your just intime for him to do this or even try making his ex a little weird by seeing you he really could have a agenda on this one and a small chance hes not. Be lucky.