Ladies your guidence needed -relationship ended as due to problems in the bedroom&i bottled thingsup

Me(35 and my g/f 28 ) split up just over two months ago after being together over 2yrs. It was on the whole a greathappy relationship, we have so many great memories, however a while back for some reason i was unable to perform in bed , at the time didnt think much of it, but then it happend again and again, a day became a week and so forth. I became more scared/insecure in myself and started to effect other areas of our relationship, such as closeness, effection, i bottled things up and stopped talking to her about how i was feeling, which pushed her away further. Why i didnt step back and realise the seriousness of what was happening at the time i will never know.

She did try to talk to me about things, i know that, but i buried my head in the sand, rather then dealing with the issue,which was fixable. In the end, her love for me was not enough to stay to gether, she no longer felt wanted, special, close to me. Time has gone on and allowed me to reflect , why i didnt deal with it at the time i will never understand as my heart wanted to get closer to her, but i pushed her away.

She was the most important relationship i have had. Now i dont know what to do. Of course , i would love to give it a second, fresh start, i know they can be fixed & wish i could show her. But i also know its only her that can decide if she wants to give it a second chance (she is still in contact with me from time to time), if i went to her with this approach, i fear itwould push her away.

I have accepted that it is all over and looking back yes something had to give, but because when we were together we didnt have a big heart to heart before it was too late and at the time of spliting up i/we were all emotional i feel that there are loose ends, wel for me anyway.

I was thinking would it be adviseble to write to her just saying i accept our break up, let her know that i acknowledge the problems we had and that that i played a part in our relationship going wrong and that i take responsibility for my part and maybe explain why i didnt deal with it at the time (i was scared and vulnurable) etc, thats my regret not opening up to her and talking to her, so important.

Is it too late for this letter? how would you feel receiving this from an ex ?

Write the letter

hi there. i think it would be a good idea to write the letter,as it will help your ex understand exactly what happened+in writing things down it sometimes helps us think more about what we did and why we did it.why don't you try writing the letter first and just see what happens/where your thoughts end up?i think that after you've written it you'll know deep down whether to send or not. hope this helps-all the best. Lx

Write the letter

Hello. Yes i think it could help her to understand what happend as a few weeks after we split, she did write a letter to me, saying all sorts of lovely things about us, but also went onto to say why it went wrong and one thing she put was " i want to let you know what it went wrong, but i cant, i dont understand myself"

By me writing to her , not only am i taking some responsibility for it, but hopefully it may well give her answers, even though she split with me, she deserves this.

I just hope by writing this it type of letter, wont push her away or make big waves in her life, but i know she has a sweet heart and will appreciate it.

Write letter

Hello. Yes i think it could help her to understand what happend as a few weeks after we split, she did write a letter to me, saying all sorts of lovely things about us, but also went onto to say why it went wrong and one thing she put was