Please help me

With out going through my whole life story lol ... ive been through a really bad relationship with this lad and i got into drugs and started drinking far too much,lost 3 stone with the stress and not eating and got into a lot of trouble after only 6 months of the relationship i ended it and was a total mess but i knew i needed to clean up my life. So i got off the drugs and alcohol got my self back to work and started been a little piece of 'me' again but the doctor told me i had depression with everything that had gone on .... i met this man who i really love we have been together 8 months now and when we 1st got together i had my suspicions he was cheating but i thought it was me been paranoid due to the past and i never had any proof ... recently my bf's so called best mate had fallen out with him as he wouldnt go on a night out with him cause i wasnt well and wanted to stay with me even though i told him to go out .... then this lad started my bfs ex m8 sending txts to me saying im a slag and he is under the thumb and all this rubbish that basically he dosnt know the 1st thing about as we have only met once and he said i was lovely !! at the time. I txt back telling him to leave me alone or i would tell his wife about an affair he had as i was so angry and he txt me back saying your bf aint innocent either ask him who he has had round your stupid you!! I asked my bf and he said hes tlking rubbish and i thrt he was just trying to get back at me 4 wat i sed to him do you think its actually true that he has cheated or do you think his mate is stirring trouble im really paranoid now agennn!! and i feel so worthless this is really depressing me i cry all the tym cause i love the bloke so much but when i mention it to him he goes mad saying i should trust him but it aint that easy especially with a past like myn!! Thanks so much 4 reading and please any advice good or bad would be great xx

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this is a hrd one at first id say other guy is stirring teh sh*t but if ure bf is like u should trust me and gets all stressed and huffy with u it looks as tho he has something to hide!!!!

id have a chat with him or jst say look i love u but to b fair i have this on my mind and i need to knoe the truth!!!! if he goes mental say fine then for the time being we will be on a break until u have decided what u really want!!!!

if he wants you that bad he will do all he can to get u back and apologise if not uve got rid of a cheat!!!! does that make sense???xxxxxx

Hi thanks 4 replyin yea id defo makes sense thanks its helped alot i just cant get a clear mind at the minute to think about it proply so youve helped ... he really dosnt get the time to cheat and he does say he loves me all the time but you know some men cant be trusted lol ill do what you said tonight and see how it goes !! thanks again
Carmen x

Good luck!!!

hope it goes well let me know how it goes hun be strong good luck!!!! xxxxx

well i thort since u offerd me good advice id let you know what happened lol basically i paid a visit to his friend and after alot of shouting he admitted he was lying just to annoy me and he said he knows my bf would neva cheat on me so i guess i was in the wrong lol i feel so foolish now but my bf had such a guilty face i thrt somat was wrong lol must jst b his face lol thanks so much xx

glad u sorted it though!!!!

hey hun,

im glad u had the guts to go up there and sort it bet u feel so much mroe relieved now next time jst ask and if u dont get do as u did u were ace!!!! best of luck with everything and u know where i am if u wnat to chat xxxxxxx