to tell or not to tell

Ive been dating the man of my dreams for the last seven months, but he lives more than an hour and 45 minutes from me. Not to mention I dont have a car, I take the train, so it takes even longer just to see him. He has trust issues with women, but he trusts me.

I am completely in love with this guy...but last night I cheated on him with an old friend.
This old friend and I will always have feelings for each other. We were each others first loves. And I have cheated on past boyfriends with this old friend, however I have never felt as guilty as I do today.
I need your advice, should I tell my boyfriend, or should I keep it inside?

Dont tell

Hiya

If this bloke is the man of your dreams, then i would not tell him, as that wont achieve anything. I think the main thing is that u need to decide who you trully want to be with. Is your boyfriend the man of your dreams? Or are you looking for something else, and this is why you went with someone else? If this is the case then u need to re-evaluate things.

I agree with one of the other posts - that this old friend may be taking advantage of your emotions and is messing with your head and ruining your other relationships. If this is the case, take your friend out of the equation and look for someone who wants a proper relationship with u (whether this is your boyfriend or someone new).

But yeah - if uve decided that ur boyfriend is the man for u, don't tell him! stick with him and enjoy your life together and dont be swayed by your old friend again! Good blokes are hard to find!

good luck!

You feel guilty cos u love this guy

Dont tell but dont let your old friend ruin this one cos u love this man and this cud b your last chance to actually be happy with soemone so please dont let teh old friend b involved and take advantage else all your relationships will go down the pan!!!!

im serious!!!!!!!!! if u love him then make a go of it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!xxxxxxxxxxxxxx xxx

Dont tell

well one thing that he is over protected so when u tell him he will be like i new you would and make you fill bad and not only that next time he will fink i was right about last time so she mite be cheating.

and the reason why you felt bad because hes the man of your dreams you dont want to lose him but trust me next time you wont.

your best bet is to go with the old friend.

To tell or not to tell

You say that you are completely in love with this guy........ if that really was true would you have cheated on him? Your current man can't really be the man of your dreams otherwise you wouldn't have cheated on him. Sorry, perhaps this isn't what you want to hear.

It seems to me that you still have feelings for your old friend that you need to work out before you can take this relationship forward. Perhaps you need to talk to the guy you cheated with and see how he feels.

I don't think you should tell your boyfriend, it won't help his trust issues and may ruin any future you have together. You need to think about what you really want from this.

Good luck

Oh god...

Argh, that's such a bad situation!
How far do you mean by "cheated on" any way? I'll take it as being that you slept with this other dude.
Well.. Honestly? If i were you i wouldn't tell, In fact i speak from personal experience of this very same situation. I'd try to blank it and make sure it never came up or happened again, of course, there is the risk that it could come up later, not from you and, well, I'm sure you can fill in the blanks.
Have you talked about it to the guy you cheated with? I can guess that he must be understanding enough, but you've got to let him know that it can never happen again, you regret it, you're not going to tell you're man because it was a mistake and wrong.
I know long distance relationships are hard, my boyfriend lives proably 4 hours on a train away, but I'm SO in love with him and it's so worth it. We;ve been together almost a year
So yes, personally I wouldn't tell him, especially if he has trust issues. If it really preys on your mind then you may have no other choice, but, as i said, personally i wouldn't. I know it's not the right choice, and it's really not good in terms of feeling guilty, but, again, from experience, i think guilt is self punishment because we know we deserve it. Fear of losing my perfect man got the better of me, i know that lying is not god, but the problems and humiliation would be worse

Good Luck
xx

Hi there

yep,i agree with ermmaybe. Xx

Thanks so much for the good advice! I tried telling my best friend today and he didnt have much to say, but this was so incredibly helpful!
I decided that I won't tell him unless the guilt haunts me unbearably. I would hate to break anything between us, especially would hate to see him distraught.
thanks thanks thanks!

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