Why can't i forget him??? help me ...

I'm been married for 2 and half years, was with hubby 1 year before marriage. But I can't seem to forget me ex who I was with for only a few months. He was the most loving guy I know, made me feel like the most beautiful woman in this world. I had all his attention and he looked after me in every way. Never argued with me even if I did with him...he was always calm and would just hug me. It's been 3 and a half years still i can't stop crying over what I had. I left my ex coz he was previously in prison for selling drugs and wasnt sure that he'd change. I couldn't risk it getting married to him and my mother was very against him so i left him for my hubby. My hubby works hard, doesn't drink, take drugs or go out with friends...ppl would think that would make me happy...but I see him as a frame at home...we always argue..he never lets it go, has to argue to the last point. I don;t feel loved, always looking at other girls and now ive lost my self asteem, feel ugly and have put on weight. I can't talk to him, we don't have a friendship. When he upsets me he wouldnt plead and say sorry like i would with him yet he'll get angry as to why I'm upset.

I don't know what to do! I've tried talking to him from the very first day but he seems to be getting worse. When I'm in tears talking to him then he says that he will change but the next day its the same thing. I feel he's with me and yet he's not. I just miss the attention i used to get and all the love and care.

Sarah

I hope i can help.

Hi Sarah

I believe that you only find your true love once in your life. I feel this way as i was with my x for 5 months and after 2 months she fell pregnant. She left me two weeks ago tomorrow and i feel as if i have lost everything, my best friends, my soul mate, my one love. I can carry on and get with anyone i want but it will never be like it was withe her. She was my best mate and i knew from the start. She left me because she felt trapped i did everything for her breakfast, dinner, tea. would never let anyone hurt her and be the best boyfriend ever. But her sister never liked me. her sister is very jealous. I now dont have the chance to be with her whilst she is carrying my baby because since she left me she wont call or text me yet alone answer my calls. she blocked my number etc.

What i am trying to say is you know who the one is. She was and still is the one for me. But things get taken out of your hands and there is nothing we can do about it. I love sara my x like u do your x but we all make certain decisions for a reason. I chose to be too over protective which drove sara away. You chose your families feelings which is why you split up.

I think you could do with having a chat with this guy to see if he still has feelings for you. If he does then you should be with the one you love. Dont listen to others. Think of your own happiness because your the one who has to live your life.

good luck