Unplanned pregnancy by man who has a long-term partner, advice needed,
Split up with my husband almost a year ago after 16 years of marriage, met this guy who is 20 years senior and whom has a partner of 4 years. At the beginning it was nothing serious and I appreciated the attention I got from this very wrong relationship (or affair I should say)! As the time goes by, both of us started to develop feeling towards each other. But Ive never asked him to leave his partner or suggested anything like this kind as I know Im wrong to be with this man and I dont want to hurt anyone!
I wanted to finish with this guy about few weeks ago when he went on a holiday with his partner, so I didnt respond to any of his emails/texts while hes away, I thought leave him alone to get back to his partner and let myself out of this mess. But life has played a joke on me, recently I had an operation and the drugs I was taking must have interfered with the contraceptive pill that I was on, I am almost 7 weeks pregnant now!!!
My first reaction was to have the termination ASAP as I have 2 girls in their teens, and I didnt want to have any more children as Im reaching 38. Also I was going to finish this affair with this guy. So I told this guy about my pregnancy and the decision I made. However, after taking a couple of days to think things through, my initial decision was weakening as I really cant bring myself to face the abortion. I really love my 2 girls and they love me too, so even the thought of having abortion makes me feel like killing one of my girls.
I discussed my situation with this guy, and his answer is that hes never thought he would father a child despite wanting to be a father when he was in his 30s or 40s. But now he felt that hes too old to be a father and its not fair on the child to have a father at his age. So he wants me to abort this pregnancy but he does not want to lose me! But he said if I continue with this pregnancy, Im pushing him away but really he has no choice over whether I keep this baby or not. Im a very proud person, hating myself to be involved with this guy in this circumstance despite my strong feelings for him. So if I decide to keep this baby, Ill have to bring this baby up on my own and restart again at the age of 38. I really dont know whether I still have the strength or not. Especially I have just got myself back into work which I can progress it into a proper career after caring for my 2 girls. Really confused and a decision need to be made sooner!!!
Any advice or experience to be shared with will be very much appreciated!
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