Partner had a mis carraige am i to blame?

Hi i posted 2 weeks ago that my partner had left me and would not talk to me and i was worried i would not get to be part of my childs life.

My partner lost the baby last friday and her and her family have been nothing but mean to me. To find out i was no longer going to be a father they sent me a text to say she had lost it and for me to leave her alone.

All i have ever wanted to do is talk to her about the baby and now they are blaming me for my x partner having a mis carraige. I am devistated and was so looking forward to being a dad.

AM I TO BLAME ?

Has she misscarried really though?

im so so sorry to hear that but r u positive she has misscarried or r they jst saying that to get u off her back??? u need to b careful cos so many ppl lie about these things hun!!!! and PS ul make a gr8 dad one day she isnt teh oen so lucky escape if u ask me xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

You are not to blame...

Hi

I am sorry to hear that you are being treated so babdly and unfairly.

I don't know how they can blame you specifically for something that, unfortunately, it is very common and 9 times out of 10 beyond anyone's control.

Your partner will certainly need space and time to grieve and so will the family but they need to honour the fact that you were the father and you have lost the baby too! Grief does strange things to people and there is little you can do to alter the way they act during these times.

I can understand your devastation. Give yourself some time to grieve and let the dust settle with the family situation. Maybe send a letter to the family/partner to explain how you feel as your feelings should be acknowledged too.

Please, don't ever feel that you are to blame for nature's cruel act of fate. There is nothing you could have done to prevent it and certainly nothing your partner could have done to stop it.

Give yourself some space for a while.

Take care xx

Sorry for your lost

Ur not to blame at all!

Whatever happens, happens for a reason and happens for the best.Have faith! I know at this point of time your not going to agree but maybe this time next yr you will be with an amazing women who cares for u, respects you, appreciates you and wants a family with you.

You have nothing to be sorry about, you need to move on and get this women out of ur head and life. She has made it clear from the moment she left you that she wants nothing to do with you.....Be strong and move on. Nothinng can bring back your lost, just be strong and positive.

You will without a doubt be an amazing dad one day

Thanks to everyone

I just want to say a massive thankyou to you all for being so nice.

I have been made out to be such a bad person by her and all i every did was want to be the dad. I am going to now take time to myself and do things that i want to do in life.

thankyou all again