"Should i leave him somethings not right"

i have been married for 5 years, i recently had a boob job to try keep him interested (wanted one myself but he was main reason) i finally had confidence in myself after the surgery but since then he said i should loose weight im a size 10/12 not fat at all in my oppinion, he hasnt wanted sex for the last few years i have to push him into it, he says he loves me but i seriously doubt it, he lies about stupid things all the time and when i catch him out or ask why he says its all in my head, i have suspicions that he has cheated he denies it and says im going mental, i used to believe him as i suffered from severe depression so when he went on about my mind playing tricks on me i believed him, i have been better for two years but he is still trying to say i am going mad. for example a key went missing (from the tin which our porn is kept tried watching together to get our sex life back didnt work) then it turned up this morning in a coat i have only just bought and they key has been missing a month(i only mentioned it being missing to him last night) i knew i didnt put it there and it was not there last night i went in the pocket for something else, so i asked him why hed had it and why hed put it in my coat he said he didnt and im paranoid , why would he make out im crazy why didnt he just say look i wanted to use the porn on my own , why does he stay with me if he doesnt love or fancy me, i really dont know where i stand, but know that there is a risk i will get depressed again if he stays as he makes me feel ugly and useless, and i cant cope with the lies and him making me question my own sanity its not fair

yea kick that jackass!!!

Sounds like this guy has problems.I agree with annie you need to play hard to get.Take control of the relationship,put your foot down.Your better than this and make yourself believe it.
Your size 10/12 is perfect.This guy is the one thats knocked your confidence by sounds of things.Try and think possitive things about yourself.Start turning the tables.He's the crazy one.Tell him to see a doctor or change his ways.If he is unwilling to do either,then tell him he isnt good enough for you.

he is trating you like this because he knows you depend on him
leave him and kick him in the balls on the way out

"Thanks for replies girls "

i still havnt decided what to do, i cant talk to him as he just gets mean and shouts a lot even if i need to talk about something serious im going to stay till after xmas and try decide after then , since i wrote this post he has been making a lot more comments about me loosing my mind i know that is not true, i think the problem is that he prefered me when i was needy with no confidence which is why i think he made the issue about my weight, i know he will not change so i know i do need to leave but it will be hard as i dont have any friends i lost them when i firts got depressed and have hardley any family if i leave i will have to start from scratch all on my own which is terrifying

ul be absoloutley fine hun we r all ure firends and starting from scratch wont be as hard as u think u will feel so much better and yes he is making more commects cos u havent bothered to be needy as usual!!! what a ... ! he is jst jelous he loves control oh well we know he will die sad and lonely u get xmas over and done with and get your stuff and go!!! ul love it even sleeping in a b&b till ure sorted is better being with him!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! wish u all the luck darling! xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

I say when a man or a woman stops having sex with there husband/wife,boyfriend/girlfriend,partner, it usually means someone is cheating. Because he knows that you suffered from depression he's is trying to use that to his advantage. If he is not cheating with a women maybe he is gay. And if you have to push the man your with to have sex with you then something must be wrong and he is getting it somewhere else. I don't think you should question your sanity if you know the key wasn't there the night before than he must have put it in there. Don't make him make you feel insecure about yourself maybe it times for you to end the marriage and you should talk to him about this.

have you made any decisions on what it is your going to do. I hope you can pick one that benefits you and you can live with.

maybe he has problems down there and is embarassed
he sounds like he has you right where he wants u, feeling needy and low about urself
honestly the only way to change things is become the one in charge ov the relationship
i was with a guy for2years and he had me running round him he was in control, he did what he wanted when he wanted and i couldnt say anything
now ive been in a relationship with my current partner for3 n half years. i am the boss , i say what goes and i make out i dont care much if i loose him or whatever, trust me it changes things around, puts u in charge he will feel he need s to work to get u, i knw it may be hard but id pretend u r kicking him out (unless u really want t kick him out that is) then he will grovel on his knees maybe he will go but if he loves u hel b back . you just need t play hard t get. make an effort and even get a night out, let him be paranoid that u have cheated
i really feel for u as 10/12 isnt fat( tht is my size)
do u really want t be with him?? if u do its time to be tough if not well get rid ov him, trust me u could do better than the way he is treating u.
why dont u put him down tell him hes ... in bed anyway, say things like what kind ov man r u , say thr r plenty men whod want sex with u, he has a small ... ect ect make out u have a new found confidence in yourself ,
dont let him lower ur confidence anymore
be the boss!!!!!!!! lol
xxxx

he is an awfulk man makin u feel like that!! u need to leave now else ul regret it forever u can start over every1 does be with soemone 1 who appreciates u babe and BTW u r NOT FAT!!! id love to be a size 10/12 he is messing with ure mind cos he is a sad selfish loser!!!! plz plz walk if its the last thing u do or play him at his own game make him b paranoid go out get dressd up get drunk and dont come home till late dont text dont call NOTHING go out and do whatever u like!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! see how he likes that!!