Big decision time - any advice appreciated

I have a daughter with my ex hubby who is the result of IVF - 3 years of "seeing what happened" and 5 years of treatment before we were blessed with our little girl, but the treatment took its toll and although we were lucky with our baby, we seperated. The cause of the infertility was me.

I have since found a new partner and moved in with him last month and found out last week I was pregnant. Huge major shock to both as I was with my ex for 8 years and never used contraception. He didn't want the baby at first but after a few days changed his mind. Then in cruel twist of fate I miscarried a few days after he had decided he wanted it.

He has now told me he doesnt want anymore children - ever. I never thought I could have anymore and if now I have the slightest chance I would love to have another baby. I am being asked to decided what I want - him or another baby. If its another baby he doesn't want to be with me.

He is not hurting over the miscarrige I dont think, he is pretty adamant but what a bloody position to put me in. I adore him and wouldn't have moved in to his house with my little girl if I wasn't sure about him. He also has an 8 year old who he sees all the time and loves.

I dont get why this time last week he was talking baby names and now he is prepared to end the relationship over this. After the years of emotional heartache and fight to get pregnant, do I now just throw the chance of another baby away? I know its my decision to make but Im feeling pretty blinkered at the mo and would appreciate other peoples points of view. thank you

What an awfull predicament

i dont think you should give up he chance of having another baby, i think mabe he is upset over the miscarriage but doesnt know how to handle it and mabe hes also paniking about having another child so early in your relationship, as he has a child from a broken relationship already, you both need to talk although it may be hard as he doesnt sound the talking type if hes issuing ultimatums, if he was talking babynames only last week that shows he isnt totally against having another child, just mabe needs a little time. im sorry for your loss for both of you and i hope you can sort it out but its going to be a hard and confusing time at the moment just hope you get through it, and if you cant agree on the baby issue you do need to think of moving on without him or you may seriously regret not trying again in the future all the best carla

Aww babe ;(

Thats a pretty rubbish thing to go through ;( i really feel for you well if its any consilation id def go with having and trying for anothe rbaby if this guy is gunna b so selfish as to not consider your feelings then u dont deserve that kind of treatment!!!!! u have ure lil girl go off and find soemone who will love u and respect u and give u teh family uve always wanted babe hope this helps!!!!!! xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx xxxxxxxxxxxxx if u wnat to chat anytime PM me