I've fallen for him way to qucikly will i get hurt?

I have been with this guy for about a month now. Hes been out of his last 8 year relationship since April, which to me doesn't seem that long to be saying that hes completly over her. I'm worried that I'm just a rebound and that I'm going to get hurt because of it. When we met I never meant for us to really be together I wasn't interested in a relationship, mostly just because I know that I'll be going off to university in just under a year. But after having met and got to know him I'm in love, but because of my university plans I keep pushing him away because I know that if I was to get serious with him I wouldn't go and would end up like other army wives and girlfriends waiting for him to come home from long tours and moving around all the time. But I don't know what to do about it.
Could I just be a rebound for him?
Should I risk it all and just be with him? I'm not sure if I really want to let myself go or not

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I agree with jahnai. The longer someone's relationship is often reflects on how long their rebound may be. Go to university and get yourself a good future; perhaps if you're lucky, you may find someone in uni (when you're ready). Think of it this way: if you go to uni and get yourself a good job, you will have a good wage and a very good chance of getting someone you will love, whereas if you choose him and he really was on a rebound, then you've just chucked away an oppurtunity some of us may not even get (some of us may not pass college) just for a man who was selfish with who he played his emotions with. Best thing to do is just go to university and keep this man as a friend; I've recently found out that friendship can be better than a relationship and if you have a relationship that ends, it could affect your friendship... keep a friend and your chance of a good future, don't keep a friend and lose a good future, right?

"i've fallen for him way to qucikly will i get hurt?"

i don't think you should risk it all i still think you should go off to university, don;t throw your future away for a man. And after all your unsure if he really likes/loves you or could you just be a rebound, because he's been in a relationship for 8 years and broken up for less then under a year. Maybe the way you will find out the answers to your question is to go off to university and if you mean something to him he will continue the relationship, and you will be worth the distance. And I do believe you can fall in love with someone after a short amount of time but, i don't believe you should throw away your plans because of love.

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