Hi im wondering i somone could give me advise

HI I KNOW THIS IS WRONG BUT I WENT THROUGH MY BOYFRIENDS PHONE NEW YEARS DAY. AS I ALWAYS HAVE SUSPISIONS AS IVE HAD BAD RELATIONSHIPS IN THE PAST. I FOUND A TX ON SENT ITEMS SAYING ''HAPPY NEW YEAR SEXY'' IT WAS SENT TO A GIRL HE USED TO SEE. I HAVE NOT MENTIONED ANYTHING INCASE I AM BEIN TOO PARANIOD AS HE DOES KNOW ABOUT MY PAST RELATIONSHIPS. PLEASE CAN YOU GIVE ME ADVISE AS WOT TO DO ? THANKS X

If there is little trust- be careful!

Hi Nicolex5
I don't know how old you are but it makes a difference to how secure you feel as a person, because the older you get the better you feel about yourself and you're more able to say no to guys who just aren't that good for you. The thing to ask yourself is whether you trust him. If no, It maybe because of your past relationships or it maybe because he isn't trustworthy.

If you don't trust him then it really doesn't matter whether it's to do with your past or his behaviour- you are more likely to have an uncomfortable and mistrustful relationshiip anyway.

In either case when you are free again, work on yourself and build up trust from the hurt you've experienced because then you will 1. only attract the 'good' guys and 2. You will know how to stop falling for the 'bad' guys.

Let me know how you get on- check out my blog, I'll be posting more tips on there in the future

All the best
Elanab

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something similar happened to me round christmas, i checked my boyfriends emails where there was a suspicious email to his ex. I just confronted him about it, althoug he reckons he never sent it. he knows tho i have trust issues and dont mind me checkin up on him ever now and again, so i would just ask him straight up about it, tell him it makes you uncomfortable and not to do it again,

Hi im wondering i somone could give me advise"

First of all I don't think your being paranoid, because you found proof of your suspisions. I myself wouldn't have thought anything of it, if it was a simple Happy New Year, but the fact that he threw in "sexy" would make me wonder if more was going on between them after all she was a past love interest. If you do go to him then you have to explain why you were snooping through his cell phone. Are you ready to do that. So what if he knows about your past relationships are you still txting these men you were involved with in the past, I'm sure your not so all of that is irrelavent. If you are ready to explain your insecurities to him then i think you should go for it and confront him with what you found


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