Friends or something more??

My friend and I have known each other just over 3 years. When we met there was an initial attraction which led to the end of each of our relationships at the time. However, despite the flirtatious banter nothing came of it and now we are very close friends. We speak almost every day - sometimes more than once a day. We often get mistaken for being a couple - in fact most of our friends can't seem to understand why we're not together. We've both been in and out of relationships since we've known each other - only he always seems to be rather relunctant to share about his. He claims to love me very much but won't label what we have in any way and yet admits to getting jealous when i'm with someone else...recently we have kissed etc - and considered sleeping together, however, I'm confused as to what that would make us. He claims it wouldn't just be sex - and yet won't commit to anything else. I'm just completely confused as to what he wants or what we are.

I would appreciate any ideas..thanks.

p.s. happy new year

Just friends don't kiss

Hi
If you were just friends then you wouldn't kiss etc. I know this because as I was growing up most of my friends were male and my friends were just that- we didn't flirt, we just hung out. Then there was the other type of male 'friend' the guys who flirted with me and with whom I flirted back- we were not friends even though we were friendly.

It sounds as if your friend doesn't really want you- that's why he won't commit, ( although he wouldn't say no to sex- but which guy would?) but doesn't want to let you go- that's why he gets jealous. So both your behaviours say you're more than just friends- but if he won't commit, you could be waiting and hanging around for years get confused and get hurt. If you both fancy each other, then do things properly, go out, and see where it goes- there is nothing worse than relationships that drag on.

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All the best
Elanab

"friends or something more??"

maybe he does Love you and because he is so used to his relationships ending he wants to have a relationship with you without putting a label to it. And how about you guys just enjoy each others company without it being anything else and if it is supposed to work out then it will.