Rules of attraction and completely confused!

Hi there,

It's probably going to sound silly but I feel very much that I am going round in circles feelings wise.

Basically at work there is a guy there who I like very much - lets call him Steve. I have heard that he is a bit of a 'lad' but I can't help but feel drawn to him. We get on quite well so I think, we flirt, we send each other non work related emails and he seems generally interested in what I have to say and what I have been up to over weekends but nothing has ever progressed. When I started working there he was seeing someone from the office and had been for a year or so but it came to an abrupt end (his choice apparently) I don't really speak to the girl but I also get the impression she isn't keen on me - now I could be reading to much into it but when she does speak I get bad vibes from her etc.

Anyway me and Steve flirt but nothing has ever happened - I would like it too and a few of my close mates from work have said that it is obvious that he likes me but maybe because we work together and the last relationship he is wary?

Another guy who I think a lot of recently asked me out from work - no one knows about this apart from a couple of my work girlie friends and I thought 'what do I have to lose? and he is a lovely bloke' so I went out last week with him for some drinks and had a really good night, we had lots in common and there is something about this guy that I like but I just don't have the same feelings for him as I do for Steve. I kept thinking about him whilst I was out with my date (I feel so bad for thinking about him during the date) but I can't shift my thoughts. And in the back of my head I can't help but think if anything did progress with my date then I would scupper any chance with Steve.

It may sound silly to lots but I just feel so confused about it all - do i continue seeing this guy who does make me laugh? Do I go on another date to justify things to myself? or do I put an end it things before anything develops and try to pluck up the courage to tell Steve exactly how I feel?

When I speak to close friends about it they say that I should carry on seeing this guy and who knows to the future? but I just don't know and I feel like I am cheating on this date because I keep thinking of Steve!

Ahhhhhhh!

"rules of attraction and completely confused!

Why don't you tell, Steve how you feel, and go from there. If it doesn't go anywhere then see where the relationship goes wit the other guy.