Can anyone help? ... this is so confusing

Hi

First of all i am new to this kind of thing bt was wondering if any of you had experienced something similar to what i am going to explain, what the outcome is and any advice appreciated.

About 3 years ago my best friend and i were out on the town when she introduced me to a guy she knew, he was realy nice, good looking and interesting that whenever we were out he was always out to.
One night he admitted to my friend that he really liked me and she told him that i did too so we swapped numbers. At first we were just texting and one night one thing led to another...
We continued to text each other regular but then he got a girlfriend and i met my ex boyfriend. While i was with my ex boyfriend he split up with his girlfriend and about 9 months later i split up with my boyfriend. We started texing again and one night one thing led to another again...

Since i had split up with my boyfriend and started texing this guy again my best mate confronted him and asked him how he felt about me ... he sed that he really likes me but he needs to sort himself out first.
We have both had text messages and late night calls from each other when we have been out and been drunk! Also just before christmas i was talking with his friends who keep tell me the same as my best friend and that he really loves me but i told them that its over to him now... Have i done right?

Basically i am confused and need to know what to do next as i really like this guy and dont no if what my best friend is telling me is true about what he says about me but in drunken conversations over the phone he has admitted that i am probably the love of my life which i dont no how to take as he was drunk.

Any advice is appreciated! Thanks

Its a tricky one

hey, i think your story is a tricky one, by the sounds of it i think he does like you... but i wouldnt say love.
if he loved you that much he wouldnt need 'time' to sort himself out, he would be making every effort to be with you.

If i were you.. i would try not to phone or text him.. even when drunk ( and try not one thing lead to another) cuz basically he's still getting you but can still be single.. have his cake and eat it.
if you dont text or phone him and if he really does like you.. he'll come running to you.
treat them mean, keep them keen kinda thing.
hope this helps??
gd luck chick. x

Thanks

Hi thanks for the advice chick

your advice is greatly appreciated and i have already been trying nt t text or phone him ... which is working lol just now when i see him out he constantly stares at me lol...
his mates are always telling me he likes me so i said it's now upt him ...

at the moment i am just getting over a nasty break up so giving him time and space he needs to sort himself out if fine by me as i am not looking for anything at the moment being honest with myself lol

Help

Come on guys can anyone help me? or has the same story?

Hi

i cant help you cos im in the same posistion lol,im seeing a guy we were txting for 18mths then decided to meet,we go out every wednesday and have been doing so for 6mths we had sex for the 1st time last week ,we txt eachother everyday,he told me he loves me,he has a baby to his ex and has him some nights,he says he has to sort himself out,and thats fine with me at the moment,but i think if he really loved me wouldnt he want to spend a bit more time with me..im just going with the flow for now and see how it goes,he is a lovely bloke,when im not happy with it i will tell him and if he cares enough we will sort it out,if not i will move on

Thanks

Hi

sounds like your in a similar situation to myself lol

ive just come out of a relationship with a guy who has an 18 month old baby and we had been together for over a year but the break up was nasty so with this guy i am also happy to give him all the time and space he needs to sort himself out because if i am honest with myself i am not ready for anything just yet either.

whenever i am out he keeps staring at me and his mates have even said that he really likes me so i told them that its over to him now lol ...