I was drunk and it was dark..... help

hey there everyone please help me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!11

im 23 and my girlfriend is 20 we have been together for over a year and a half now, the other day i went out clubbing with a group of friends and ended up back at some guys house for the night.. my girlfriend hadnt come out but being absolutely paraletic id kinda forgotten that so i was lying on the floor of some guys room and this girl came up behind me and started kissing and touching me,it was rele dark so i couldnt see and i was so drunk i geunuinely thort it was my girlfriend and let her carry on. she started playing with my ... but not for long enough to make me come, (it takes me ages) we didnt kiss alot and i didnt do anything back to her and it wasnt until i woke in the morning that i realised that it hadnt been my girlfriend, i did know her but there was nothing between us and im not in the least attracted to her, it was a huge drunken mistake but now im really scared to tell her about it, shes had a past run of boyfriends who have continually cheated on her and has zero percent tollerance. i love her enormously and couldnt live without her. after i realised it hadnt been her before i threw up loads from the thought of it and have felt like crying a number of times today.it meant nothing and i am so ashamed and upset, the girl has promised never to mention it but im scared she will and i dont want to tell my grilfriend for fear of losing her. i know it sounds selfish but we love each other and both hate hate hate people who cheat, what should i do? i'd rather die than lose her shes the most brilliant thing thats ever happened to me but i know she will end it if i tell....

help me please please please

ps, i know i count it as chaeting but seeing as i techniqually didnt do anything apart from lie there and let it happen is it still real cheating? i didnt kiss her back and we didnt speak throughout i was too tired and drunk and she didnt touch herself or ask me to do so....

To be perfectly frank

As mean as this will sound, I don't fully believe you. Perhaps it's because I've been on the receiving end of crap stories of it being "the other girl's fault" when actually the guy just couldn't keep his ... in his jeans, eerily enough a lot of these stories sound similar to yours.

Now maybe I'm just being a bias ... but ask yourself this: if you really thought this other girl was your girlfriend, why didn't you reciprocate? Also, forgive me if I'm wrong, but alcohol makes your innibitions foggy and your actions/disorientated - it doesn't distort your ability of recognition.

One other thing is that you should have recognised your girlfriend's touch and the way she handles you if you've really been together that long. This is also where recognition should come into play because if you weren't too busy focusing on your handjob, you would have been able to look at the girl's face long enough to realise that actually she wasn't your girlfriend and you should put your ... away.

Then again, for all I know you're being genuine and maybe you're just the victim of sexual harassment. I still don't believe you didn't realise it was her. I've been absolutely off my face and I still recognise everyone I'm with, even if the one thing that reminds me they're more than foggy blurs is their distinctive voices. Or did she not even talk to you? Unlikely, as I know from my own experiences of being drunk and looking after the drunk, intoxicated people talk A LOT. So surely you could have realised she wasn't your girlfriend by just the sound of her voice?

Sorry if I'm being necessarily catty, but that's what's been perceived to me at least.

Mad head

sorry yeah that is the most lousy excuse iv ever heard ; if my bf did that id be well ... he should know my touch n to be honest with ya ; u should tell ur gf it happen cos id rather be told then to find out ; put the shoe on da other foot ; that sket was waitin for it n by sounds of it she got ; so she will open her mouth at some point x

u did cheat even if u didnt do n e thin i dont think u should b drinkin cuz u cant control ur self i think it da best thing da more u hold it da more suspicious u will look show her that ur sorry even if she leaves u show her u care 2 b honest if u told me sum shyt like dat i wouldnt believe u so give it a try if dont tell sum way it goin 2 cum out trust me

"i was drunk and it was dark"

May I laugh at that stupid excuse of yours?

If that girl has sexually harassed you, why didn t you report it to the police?

You can still take legal action against her. After all, you were in a situation where you were practically helpless.

So...... , what s keeping you back

Im all ears.....

Good one

look it up in the law book before you go saying take legel action.

Tbh

tbh, your a bit of a pussy. face up to what you have done and be a man. secrets always come and bit you in the bum. and yes it is still cheating cus you didn't pull back! plus you said it was your gf so surely you'd start kissing back? i think your a bit of a sneaky lair tbh, which is the worst of lairs. i don't balme her if she finishes with you! xo

"i was drunk and it was dark..... help"

I would keep it a secret just because i know that it would destroy my GF. but how are you going to feel to keep this bottled up inside, is it not going to eat away at you, and what if the girl does decide to tell because she likes you. did you ask this girl why she did this. or to make it more real since you didn't want anything from her why not charge her for sexual assault.

i recommend u...

to keep the secret til death, I'm very naughty but I understand ur situation 'cause she will never forgive u if u tell her...that will just dissapoint her. Just try to tell the other girl to keep the secret too or u will die.

Good luck!