Help!! should i take him back??

Ok, I'm 16. I started a relationship with a lad on the 9th January this year. He is my first boyfriend and i was very happy with him until last wednesday. He told me that he had started talking to his ex once again, after not talking to her for 2 years after an arguement when they split. I felt a little paranoid, but it was ok, he started talking to her more and more and admitted to me that he still has feelings for her. I finally came to the point of saying 'It's her or me. Do you want to be with her?' He simply replied, 'I don't know'. So i ended it. I'm not being with someone who means everything to me, but i don't mean everything to. He met up with her the day after. I only met his parents and sister the weekend before, but they think that she was a ... and wanted him to take me back. Last night, he told me that he had made a mistake and its me that he wants. And he is gonna stop talking to her anymore if that is what i want. So i agreed finally to get back with him.

This morning, he confesses to me that he went out last night and got so drunk that he basically passed out. He told me that he kissed another girl. But that it meant nothing, because he was so drunk. He is so apologetic, but now i just don't know. he tells me to talk to his mates and ask them what happened, but even so i don't know. i don't think i trust him anymore.

There is one good thing, he hasn't kept any of this from me. He tells me straight away. And I do love him. And he swears it won't happen again.

WHAT SHOULD I DO????

Please help,

Thanks xxx

Thank you... xx

I just want to say thank you to everybody that replied to this post, as your responses have helped me a lot...

And although it may not be to everybodies liking, i have decided to give him another go.... but he does know that this is his final chance.. im not being a doormat, he ain't gonna walk all over me...

Everytime we meet up now though, it is still on my mind, but he can't expect it not to be really, after all, it's only been a week, and to be honest, whenever i mention it, i see that it kills him inside to know he upset me so much.... BUT IT SHOULD!!! shouldn ...

anyway, i will keep you all posted. if you want to know how the relationship between us progresses, add me as a friend on here, or private message me or something...

Anyway, one final THANK YOUUUU!!!

much love xxxx

Well...

I hope you're definitely sure about this decision, Lozzzie. And I really do hope he treats you better after this, but if he doesn't, I won't say "I told you so" because that's just unfair and inappropriate (and I would hate that if you did that to me). I can understand from your perspective, though. I took my ex back the first time he was a prick in the vain hope he'd treat me better. He didn't. Although the 'two-timer' accusatons stopped, he took my kindness as a sign that he could do whatever he wanted and I'd still take him back.

In the end, it's your decision. If he hurts you again, don't take him back. I know you won't like me saying that, but if you don't want to end up in a horrible cycle where he takes advantage over your compassion to mess with you, it's the best option. He should be hurting for what he did. And that should drive him to change and stop treating you like a doormat.

If you have any other problems concerning him or anything else, let me know ok? Like everyone else on this forum, I'm here to help.