You poor thing
I agree with Poly549. There's no way to determine how long it takes to get over someone. It's the opposite of the old saying: "It takes half as much time to get over someone as it was the time you were with them." It all depends on what you felt you had with this guy and if you really felt you were in love with him, it's bound to hurt more because you had your heart in it. I know the feeling of having someone have you believe they love you - it's especially painful that way.
I had a similar situation to you. My ex said he would hate to leave me and blah blah blah when we both knew it was only a matter of time. Unfortunately, guys tend to get all hyped up at the beginning of a relationship and are inconsistent to the point where they break up with you over nothing. I can understand the need to "breathe" because if he had family issues, he would be worried in case he hurt you or somehow ended up with you getting involved and being hurt that way. (Such as the ever-so-critical mother scenario.)
However, as you said it's been a month and a half - in fact, two months now. So he HAS to have an AMAZING reason why he hasn't even bothered to talk to you on a friendly basis. I know it's difficult to interact healthily with "the ex", but if he truly cared about you, he would have made the effort by now or at least send you some form of memo to let you know he still cares.
You're not pathetic at all, hun. I was distraught for two weeks before I successfully broke up with my ex and I'm still a little shaken up (though you'll be the first I'll ever admit this to), and I probably will be for a while because we shared a lot of memories together - not always good memories, but memories nonetheless.
My advice on how to get over him is to focus on you from now on and what YOU want and need. If this guy's worth it, he'll come around but in the mean time put all your energy into something you enjoy. Go out with your friends, flirt with some hot guys (but be fickle unless you mean it, and it's probably best you are fickle right now) and remember that you deserve so much better than how he's treated you. Just pay attention to feeling better about yourself and soon he'll only be a vague memory (unless he comes back and admits he was a right ... to put you in this position and vows never to do that again).
Don't feel pressured for a 'quick fix' - remember, everyone moves on when they're ready. And Poly459's right - it's not a good idea to leap into another relationship in hope it'll fix everything, because it won't and it'll make you all the more insecure when you don't have a boyfriend to rely on. Men are enjoyable (well, sometimes) and can prove to be good partners and providers (depends), but there is nothing more attractive than a girl who knows what she wants and how to get it. If you're still at school, get cracking to the books, get amazing grades and show him that you don't need him to be happy because you're fully capable of happiness and a sense of accomplishment all on your own.
I hope this helps (sorry it was so long-winded and if it doesn't make sense) and you need someone to vent to, feel free to send me an IM. I'd be happy to help in any way I can. 
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