Is it to fast?

I have been dating a guy for just over 6 months. He works out of town during the week but we see each other every weekend. Everything seems to be going great and this summer he will be back to working locally so we will be able to see more of each other. I am completly absorbed in his life, spending the weekends with him, his family and friends.

My problem, if you would consider it such, is that I have always rushed into relationships. How fast is to fast? I realized in October that I was in love with him, I confessed it to him one drunkin night in December...he said he loves me too but we have not said it since and have not even discussed that night with each other since (however his friend confessed to me that he told him about it).

He is very cautious because he has been married before and it ended in divorce. He was very, very hurt by his ex and is scared that it will happen to him again. He wants to move slow and has told me that, but I feel like we are moving at a snails pace.

My gut tells me to just let this ride the way its going until he comes to work here closer to home, to when I will see him more and make sure that I still feel the same way when we are together more often......but my heart just tells me to quit wasting time and tell him (not in a drunken state) how I really feel. I wrote him a long letter explaining how I feel but i have yet to give it to him.

I am so confused as to what to do, I really dont have anyone I can talk to about this and Im sorry I have rambled on and on its just that I would appreciate a third parties input who really does not know us.....go with my gut, go with my heart...give it more time....I just dont know.

Is it to fast?"

since you are aware that you move to fast in relationships, maybe this is the guy for you and taking it slow doesn't necssarily mean he is not into you as much as you are into him but, it's just times way of telling that sometimes it is better to take things slow because then you are better able to analyze all components of the relationship. And if he told you he loved you also they do say that a drunk mind speaks a sober heart or mind something like that I would encourage you to move slow especially because he has been hurt in the past just let nature and time take it's course.

Is it to fast?""

how have things been going for you and this new guy have you tried to slow things down a little.

Is it to fast?"""

how have things been going just wnated to find out how you are feeling about yourself.

Patience is something i am working on........

Things are going the same...slow but I have decided to be patient. The other night he told my best friend that he loved me...that scored pretty high marks in my book. He did confess to me that this is the longest relationship he has had for the exception of his marriage. I did not give him the letter I wrote and now am thinking that I never will.

So here I will sit being patient and taking it slow, maybe it will be a good change. Wish me luck!

Take it slow

slow and steady is the best way to regain a healthy and stable relationship. By rushing into things and having everything out in the open at the beginning, ruins the fun and excitement of feeling like your relationship has reached a new level. it will keep your relationship spiced up for longer and you might find that you prefer it this way. Stop looking at it in a negative way. Maybe this is a time to experiment whether slowing this down is where you have been going wrong.