Alcoholic partner

Can someone please just talk to me and maybe help?
I have been with my partner for over 7 years and yes in the beginning i drank too much too. I slowed down as I didnt drink excessively previous to us getting together. We split up for a few months last year, partly due to this problem.
My partner has a very stressful job and often takes work home with him. He has tried to stop and a few years ago did so for 10 wonderful months, but we had a all inclusive holiday so he wanted to take advantage of that, of course we ended up arguing in holiday. He will stop for maybe a week or two - the first few days he cant sleep and gets the shakes. Then finds an excuse to get a drink again. We are due to go on holiday in a few months and I'm now scared it'll turn into rows again.
I dont have a problem with him having a drink, its the amount 12-15 pints an evening and that he does not make it up to bed, falls asleep on the couch, which i really dont like.
Can anyone help me? or give me some advice/suggestions!

Does he get violent when drunk?

The social worker in me says "run for your life", but it sounds that you are not willing. Cant he go to re-hab? Im sure he knows its bad-bad stuff he's doing' to you and to himself. Get treatment fast, its not going anywhere good!

Alcoholic partner

Thank you all for your replies!
Especially Strawberry Jess, I think I have to be brave and end our relationship. As its been a vicious circle for the past few years then starts all over again. My partner will NOT go to see a Doctor or Councillor, we have sat a talked about this many times, when he knows he's doing wrong and has a problem and promises to change. I have lost count now and know it will never happen. I either have to live with it or live without him. For my own sanity it has to be without. Also as it has been tearing us apart so so much I feel I'd be happier this time apart!
Thanks again.
xXx

I hope this helps you!

I think you need to think strong with this, you need to decide whether you want to stick by him through this or whether your not going to deal with this any longer. You need to talk to him about how this is all affecting everyone (if you have children and other family members) With a drinking problem... the alcoholic needs to realise that it is a problem, and he needs to admit that in order to do anything about it. try talking to him about things that are going on in his life.. hows work? maybe like you say the stress of work is the root of the drinking... or maybe its something else. Dont expect to do this all yourself if you go to your doctors they could give you information for you both to see a concellor or a local alcohol group. But remember arguing wont get anywhere, i can imagine your under alot of stress because of the situation but talking about the issue will probably resolve the reason for the drinking.

I hope that helps, I hope things really work out this time!

Re alcoholic partner

hi there hows you?. i was just reading you letter, iv just come out of the same relationship with my partner of 5 years. well luv wot can i say ? it just dosent get any better they will stop 4 a while if they think that they are going to loose you.then when it calmes down they tart again. he will always drink i had to let him go he now is so ill at 43. he can hardly walk due to nerve damage.he vomites every day.and it breakes my heart..........you must think hard about ur situation it onley gets worse its no life for you when there are plenty of nice men about. iv met some one who drinks very little .after my ex be
at me so bad through drink, i feel happy at last.!!


katie.

Alcoholic partner

maybe you shold try to get him to get some alcholics annonymous classes drinking can really mess up a relatiohship trust me i know part of the reason me and my ex split is because he was a heavy drinker and he would at times become abusive.

"alcoholic partner"

how have things been going have you decided to seek out counselling for you and your partner I highly reccomend this especially if you want to continue the relationship.