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Been there don't that
Been there girl, he will never leave his wife, His having problems with the wife, he will not leave her has his use to her.
I was my married guy for 2yrs, same thing not getting on with wife, my que to go was when he said his having another baby.
4yrs on his still with wifey still having problems and is with another girl. Me i woke up smelt the coffee meet some else and had a baby.
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Let me tell u da truth
FIRST OFF U ... UP BY MESSIN WITH HIM GIRLS ALWAY WANT SOMETHIN THEY CANT HAVE U WERE JUST A THING ON THE SIDE HE PROBABLY WAS GOIN THROUH PROBLEMS WITH HIS WIFE N U WERE A PRETTY THING N U WERE NOT STRESSIN HIM OUT SO HE STARTED MESSIN WIH U HE SHOULD OF LET U KNO IT WAS JUS SEX CUZ IF U KNEW DAT UR FEELIN WOULDIN GET SO DEEP I KNO IT HARD 2 LET GO BUT U HAVE TO EVEN HE COME BACK 2 GET ANOTHER NUT HE WILL NEVER LEAVE HIS WIFE U NEED TO RELIEZE THAT AND U WOULDNT WANT N E 1 MESSIN WIT UR HUSBAND PUT UR SELF IN HER SHOESTRUST ME WEN EVER U MESS WIT SUM 1 MAN THEY ALWAYS GO BAC
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I love a married man
Dear Chipcookie
Yes, give up now !!!!! - I have been with a married man for 16 years and still waiting for him to leave his wife, my husband has just found out and I am about to lose him too. Don't do it - the constant heartache is so unbearable.
Yours
Kayster
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Hi
You can see from the amount of responses on here this always touches a nerve with people.
1. If he loves you he would leave his wife - he doesnt
2. If he was unhappy at home he would leave his wife - he loves her
3. If he wanted a future with you he would leave his wife - he doesnt
4. If he 'felt the same' about you, he would leave his wife - he doesnt
'Please please, Wake up and smell the coffee' as they say - DONT waste your life on this scumbag cheater. YOU are the one being used as a 'bit on the side' and his mistress. And to make matters worse, his poor wife is being cheated on. I hope this never happens to you as i wouldnt want you to experience the trauma, damage and total devastation of self esteem this can do to a person. Do the decent thing and leave him alone - he isn't yours and to be perfectly honest he isnt deserving of anybody especially his wife.
however, you will remember this experience in the future. When you eventually settle down with a loving husband, you will find that as a consequence of being someone elses mistress you will never trust him. Lets hope it doesnt happen to you and destroy your life.
Sorry to be blunt
D
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Relationships
1. If he loves you he would leave his wife - he doesnt
2. If he was unhappy at home he would leave his wife - he loves her
3. If he wanted a future with you he would leave his wife - he doesnt
4. If he 'felt the same' about you, he would leave his wife - he doesnt
This kist makes lots of sense if he said all these things and hasn't done it i suggest moving on hun.
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I've been there...
On all three sides of this situation of cheating. Yet I was in your exact situation just a few years ago. I found out only after I had been staying with him in his apartment for about two months while his wife was gone. After I found out he told me the same thing, he can't stand his wife/Loved me. I'm sorry, but thats what all married guys tell all of us women who are willing to believe. It's not going to happen with this guy. Sadly even if he really is unhappy the reason that he won't leave it because of divorce settlements. This isn't by my experience, it's been studied. Maybe he genuinely does care about you, but would you really want someone who has no regard for the other person that they loved enough to marry. In my eyes he's being a coward about either telling you or her that he's done.
But trust me when I say that there is someone out there who is better, that there is. Why pursue someone who doesn't appreciate you. Being in love is being appreciated, and sharing your dreams together, not perpetuating chaos for you. The guy is selfish, and you can stick around to find that out or just find someone better
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"i've been there..."
i agree why stay with someone who can't even be honest enough to leave his wife. it never works out and it is easy for others to say leave but it is hard to walk away from someone you have developed feeling for believe me i know i can't leave the person i'm with i love him to I'm sure his wife loves him to and i am not ready to give him up and i know i could be selling myself short cuz there is someone out for me.
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"i love a married man"
he's married and he chose to stay with his wife move on girl. I know how you feel I started dating this guy and he told me he had a girlfriend but their relationship was over, then a little later into the relationship he told me she was prego, and I still stayed with him because I developed real strong feelings for him, then a couple of months later he married the girl mind you i still see him we still sleep together, he tells me he loves me and he wants to be with me, but i know at some point I am going to have to face reality and let him go, even though it's going to hurt me dearly.
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Oh dear
Well does he have children? because he may want to stay with his wife for the children sake. But if not then not only is it unfair on you but also his wife. But if he is to stay with his wife then maybe its best to move on to someone who is single and wants you.
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Loving a married man
each man feels that anothers wife is best suited for himas most of the wishes remain unfulfilled.so what is wrong persuing another?
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I love a married man too
I;m 21 and married, but I'm in love with a 41 year old married man. We also click in every way. He is unhappy, so am I. He has two young daughters though, and we both agreed that we would wait until they turned 18 before persuing a relationship. We both love each other, but try our hardest to contain ourselves. Neither of us wants to get in between the others marriage, but we can't help how we feel . I don't want him to leave his children for me, not until he is ready, and he knows that, appreciates it. My husband and I are moving to a new apartment, about 3 hours away from him in a few weeks. I love him very much, and we know that if we get together we will not be able to hold ourselves back. I care for my husband, I don't want to hurt him, but I don't feel its fair to him or me, to stay in a marraige that leaves either unsatisfied. But I'm not sure what to do. Should I wait for this guy, and pursue him when the time is right for us? Should I jsut cut off all contact and stay with my husband? I know we are both torn in two, because we want to be together so bad. Every converstaion we have is full of passion, chemistry. We leave each other sweet little messages every day, twice a day, sometimes more. Does anyone have any advice?
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We have to learn girls
I met this guy at work who is so much my type it is scary. Even though he is not married, he has been with the same woman for over eight years. He told me that I was what he always wanted in a woman and that, he missed me when he could not see me. I thought that we would one day be together forever. We carried on this affair for seven months and then all of a sudden he just stopped talking to me. It hurt me really bad and I felt like my whole world was gonna fall apart. The truth is that I sold myself short of other possiblities out there for me. And that is what I feel you are doing. We wear our hearts on our sleeves, because it is in us to be loving and caring. And even though we already know that the relationship is built on a lie, it is hard to seperate our heart from the truth. I don't think you should give up, I think you should just go on. It is his loss not yours. Let him see the woman that has picked herself up and is still doing fine. No man wants a woman who is gonna fall apart. He wants someone who can say okay, even when it's not. The truth is, you don't know how he feels. I have no idea what this guy I spent all this time with is really thinking about me. You need to get to the point where you acknowledge how you really feel. Rejection is hard to handle, especially for a woman. So pick yourself up by the boot straps and put on your sexiest outfit and give yourself a night on the town girl!
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I love a married man
i know how you feel i fell in love with a married man
who said he was unhappy and his wife did'nt want to know about sex and him being happy,
now for the past week he has been
having dreams and calling out his wife's name
and now i dont know what to do,
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Im also in love with a married man
I have fallen head over heals in love with a married man. Trust me I know what im doing is more than wrong, I was in a relationship for 11 years and my partner cheated on me a couple of times until I finished it. Couldn't understand these horrid women that didn't even consider me!! Well shoe is on the other foot now! I do hate myself knowing that I could destroy someone else's life but I really do love this guy I click with him in everyway possible. I met him 6 or so years ago he was single I wasn't, we were just mates, I knew he liked me but I would never have cheated on my partner. He never pursed me I just knew I liked him. 2 years ago I split with my other half. Then an email a year later from married man (not married at the time), he was testing the water me dum as normal did not click. I then got in contact with him this year we met up with loads of friends and that was it, I knew he was getting married but thought just get him out of your system! (big mistake) I can never get him out of my system to me he is my soul mate. The worst thing is his now wife (Who I dont know) is a really nice person and he has no reason to leave her really but I cant be without him and he cant be without me. I KNOW CAKE AND EAT IT! He does have an issue where she wants kids and he dont its the only thing I can see that will devide them. I know I should walk away but easier said than done!! Even though I feel im on a rollercoaster up and down, when im with him or talk to him I dont care. Ive been with a bad man and even though what he (WE) is doing is wrong he is not a bad man. Life really is not fair. I know what to do but not even my best friend knows im seeing this man and that is hard as I have noone to talk it over with, I never in a million years thought I would be in this situation.
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Heres what i think
move on. Do you realise just how many people get hurt from this kind of thing? your man ( well hes not yours) has made the decision to stay with his wife and put you in his past.Respect his decision and leave him alone. Put yourself in his wifes position and I guarentee you will agree that you wouldnt want to be hurt like that. You have the chance to do the right thing-do it!
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You are right...
And deeply in our soul,we now that.
But is not that easy.
And trust me,it hurts, and is not funny , not pleasant. But the heart is right that the reason does not understand
.And although we always knew in that conditions were the game, the feelings are not easy to forget.
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Married man
dont give up he is also burning and looking out for any chance to get bk to u dear he is ur man but he is finding it hard to divide himself into two so let him take time to decide whome he belongs to. i assur u ur the lucky one. best wishes
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Give up
i am new to the site but as soon as i read ur message i had to reply and tell you my story. 4 years ago i met a man who was 11 years older than me and married. i saw him nearly everyday at work, though he flirted with me i resisted because i new he was married, but eventually he wore me down. i hated what i was doing but i had developed such feelings for this man that i couldnt give him up. he gave me a sad story about how his marriage was failing and how he wanted to leave her but was to scared and i believed him. then i found out that yes his marriage was in trouble but to over come that he and his wife were adopting a child, i was heart broken and ended it staight away.i didnt talk to him for months but then he started emailing me telling me how much he missed me and wanted me back and being a woman in love i was stupid enough to believe him and then again i found out that the adoption had gone through and he was now living a happy life with his new son and his wife and that was it, it was bad enough that i was risking the happiness of his wife but to risk the happiness of a child that had already been through so much already was to much, so i ended it for gud. though it was hard to start with i got over him and am now really happy with a guy i have known for years, we have a daughter together and life couldnt be better.
so my advice to you is to give up, nobody is worth the kind of pain he is causing you.
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Hii
well...I have to say that I'm in the same situation!And I am suffering so much because he doesn't want to leave his wife!!...but now I can say you something...if he really loves you he will realize this and he won't mind on what other people would say..trust me...so...don't give up!men always come back...kisses..good luck!!!
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Let it be....
It is up to you for not to give up or just leave him happy with his life.I believe if we love our partner very much,let him be happy.Always remember you are not his destiny.My advise,if you want to carry on the relation with him,don't force him to do what he don't like.Give him courage.Give him support.In that way,he will respect you and even love you more.Go girl!
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