Parental fueds are going to wreck my relationship
Hi, sorry to be a bother but since everyone was such a great help in my last posts I was hoping I could get some help on this one as I have no idea what to do.
My parents have been fighting a lot recently and I'm having that constant niggling feeling that they might separate. It's been a worry for me for a little while, but I never took it to that much consideration because I figured that maybe they'd be better apart if they're so unhappy together; but recently things have been going really well for me, better than they have in years. I finally managed to get back on track with my studies and going to study a really exciting Biomedical course in September and I fell in love with a wonderful guy who loves me too. I know it's really selfish of me to think this way, but I already know the consequences if they split; my mother will want to go back to her first home and expect me to come with her and I'll have to leave everything behind. However, if they stay together, they'll just keep being unhappy.
I want them both to be happy, but I can't leave everything now when I have so much to hold on to. My boyfriend and I are already coping with long-distance as he goes to a university two hours away, but we work around it by spending every weekend together and keeping in contact every day - however, it's going to be a lot more difficult if my mum expects me to go to a different country with her. I love my mother dearly, my father too, but it'll be too difficult for me to adjust to the move and I know I'm going to be miserable. I know I'm being really self-centered and inconsiderate of her feelings but isn't there another way around this so we can all be happy?
Thanks in advance, I really really appreciate it.
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