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Help! am i losing him?

I need some advice. Ive been going out with someone for 7 months now but im worried i might be losing him. When we first got together he used to be the one chasing me. He used to compliment me and say i was so beautiful and he would always ask to see me and he tried it on and wanted sex alot. Now i cant remember the last time he gave me compliment and we haven had sex in 3 weeks. i feel like he doesnt fancy me anymore. also recently he asked me to give him some space so i dont see him as often now. For the past few weekends i havent seen him at all as hes always with his mates, he doesnt even call or text me when im not with him. it seems like when im out of sight im out of mind. he doesnt seem to miss me at all or even think about me. im giving him space by not buggin him with texts but i feel so unwanted and unloved and need to know he cares about me and still wants me. when i do see him we usually just stay in and watch tv, which is fine but i would like to be taken out once in a while. we used to eat out and go to the cinema and but it seems like he only makes plans with his friends now. also ive found he very rarely hugs or kisses me now, im aways the one who has to initiate them or ask for them. i dont know what ive done to turn him off me but it feels like ive lost him and i dont know how to get him to want me again. im doing what hes asked me an giving him space but it feels like the relationship is very one sided and he is the one calling all the shots, picking me up and dropping me when he feels like it, and it doesnt feel like he is giving as well as taking. all i want is to feel special and loved by him. i have tried telling him this and he just pretty much ignored it. help, what should i do?

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Dump him!

dump his ass.

or you'll end up like me. 3 yrs later he still ignores me, and only wants you living with him to be his maid!

Theres someone out there thats your 'mate, you just haven't found him yet!

Help i'm loosing him!

Please loose the desperation. Your boyfriend might be completely unaware how you feel, at the moment. He probably does not know that his attitude has changed.

Take charge, cook a nice dinner for him or treat him to a dinner in a quiet restaurant. Very gently tell him what has been on your mind and how it has made you feel.

Do not give him an ultimatum, tell his that he needs to think and act on his feelings for you, and that he must have them.

You might hear all that you wish for, or not. If not you are better off knowing the truth now rather then later.

Help am i losing him

its over hun......it seems to me he wants u only at his convenience...yes in the beginning he chased you..then he felt he had u where he wanted u & decided he didnt want it anymore for wateva reason. babe...when a man asks for space...its the beginning of the end. u gotta b a lil tougher x

Difficult

Well, when I read this, I was wondering how much attention you paid to him at the start? Playing hard to get or complimenting him less than he does to you may have made him feel like you don't really need him as much as you actually do; he may grow to think he's done his part by actually finally winning the chase and getting you. Perhaps what you experienced at first was one of these 'beginner's flame' things? Where everything was fun and exciting and lovable at the beginning, but now it's toning down a little?
Relationships that are simmering down can sometimes appear to be failing. But maybe it's not failing at all. Maybe you just need to invite something new into your life in order to boostthe excitement in one another?
Or maybe you need to show him just how great you really are! I dunno how...perhaps have something like an all-night sex thing? Or 'conveniently' remind him of the old times (photos would encourage it) and the things you used to do together and stuff; he probably doesn't realise it's missing because he hasn't lost you. But if he did, he'd realise it then, Relationships do need time and patience and sometimes absence to simmer and this can be one of the hardest times to stay together, cos it'll feel like you're drifting apart. Just stick in there and if you feel lonely, don't wait for him, go all out guns on him with something, just to keep the excitement afloat! I hope that's helped }



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