How can i tell if he likes me

This is going to make me sound stupid but im a mature woman for the last few months seen a man every sat night when out with friends, he is very friendly and flirts a lot. He has asked me to go for a drink but he has a girlfriend so said no. Last night I was out and saw him with his girlfriend this really upset me and I flirted with this other man in front of him he ignored me all night but when he was leaving he came up gave me a quick kiss and his phone number his girlfriend was still there. I really like him but dont want to ring him, he told me straight away that he had a girlfriend but it was nothing serious he doesnt live with her or anything. Should I go out with him this is making me feel so insecure, I feel like a silly schoolgirl.
Shellx

Hmmmm

The thing about men is they like to have their cake & eat it, so whilst you decide to try & make him jealous he is frustrated at the fact your not showing him attention... therefore doesnt talk to you all night then panicks when you leave so gives you his number.
Maybe explain to him you like him, but the fact he has a girlfriend (serious or not) & he is flirting with you & giving you his number will only raise concerns later on (if you happen to enter into a relationship) i.e. you will think he is doing the same to you...
Feelings are hightened as he is in a relationship, maybe its the wanting what you cant have?
I have been in similar situations ... maybe its just lust,
However I would not go behind his GFs back - as if you enter into a relationship one day with him...it could be you he does this to?
Good luck

Cheers

Thanks for the reply.

I wont go behind his girlfriends back and have told him this but I really want to. When he is on his own he seems really genuine but when with his friends he is loud and flirty.

What happened in your situation did you get him in the end?


Shellx

I did in the end, but it was short lived, from wanting something so badly ...to realising he was a complete pr1ck!!

Not saying your situation will be the same - but some men like to have at least one stable(ish) relationship- then maybe a bit of excitement on the side ... & when your the bit on the side you wish for more ... but when you get more you'd do anything for him NOT to have his bit on the side ... or even be that bit on the side again...

Just tred carefully & if you are what he wants - let hm prove it - by making all the moves (i.e. splitting up with his partner and respecting the fact you dont want to enter into anything b4 he does that)

Good Luck Shell x x

Trying hard lol

Thanks Rachie

I am trying hard to resist him. I am fairly good friends with his sister and she has told me that he likes me a lot and wants to take me out but he is worried about ending it with his girlfriend the flirting has been going on too long now and is starting to get me down but I cant be the one to take it further. He is insecure and I dont know why because women are always talking to him and he doesnt flirt back with them.

He has gone through a bad time in the past he was in a long term relationship and the loss of his child led to the breakdown of this, when I actually talk to him one to one he seems so nice but in front of everyone else he is brash and one of the lads. He has given me his phone number his address and his place of work I have never been out with him but know more about him than I do about some of my friends.

I wish I could manage to put him out of my head but find it very hard I have tried being nice, flirting with him, flirting with others, ignoring him but that connection seems to be there. My friends are convinced that if I went with him I would find him boring and it would get him out of my system and this maybe so but think I would sooner have nothing to do with him than him think bad of me.

Thanks for taking the trouble to respond.

Shellx

No worries

This site is brilliant for talking about things, makes you feel so much better!!!!

If he has said to his sister he likes you- I suppose thats only a good thing, that he has confided in his sister about you, But at the same time why is he worried about breaking up with his GF if its not really that serious?
Why do your friends think that?
Could be what I was saying previously about it being lust? and wanting what you cant have.
Suppose all you can do in that instance is imagine yourself with him & what it would be like to be together, is there anything that would put you off? or slowly begin to aggrivate you more & more if time goes on?
If that doesnt work - imagine he has really smelly breath lol that should put you off...
seriously tho - if he does break it off with his now GF, there is only one way your going to know if you'll find him boring - thats to give it a go i suppose - dont worry if its not what you what eventually - just think of yourself and not how he will be thinking / feeling ... x x x

Got my answer

No with a capital N.

Saw him Sat he flirted like mad asked me to go back withhim I said no so he flirted with one of my friends I shouted at him and walked away .

So thats that

Shellx