Am i right to be annoyed?

Good day everyone,
Just enquiring as to whether I have cause for concern with my new man really...

Basically we have been seeing each other for a few months & have only recently made our relationship "official" However he has a close female friend to him who he has claimed thinks slightly more of their relationship, It took him a awhile to finally break the news to her that he was with someone ... & apparently took it ok, but was very upset etc etc...
He has not mentioned my name as he doesnt want me to be "stalked" or "harassed" by her on facebook - not that it would bother me - as i'd tell her to jog on!
But the other day she had written a note on his facebook wall as follows:
" x x x "
Yes, just simply that - Either to try & get a reaction out of his "new girlfriend" or something
He is always seeming to be treading on egg shells with her & he seems to be at her becon call constantly... although I appreciate he has told her he isnt intereseted in her in that way & has me - its still I feel putting a strain on things as I really want to tell this girl to f*ck off, but have to be mature about the whole thing and not rise to it.. your comments would be appreciated
Many Thanks
x

Hmmmm

I dont know what that facebook message means, but it might just be to annoy you. I will be frank, shes a woman, youre a woman im a woman and we know, we can be bitchy and horrible when we want to be. Personally I would be asking why she has such a hold on him, he doesnt owe her anything. He chose you so he should start showing it, why is he at her beck and call? I appreciate its his friend and yes you do have to tread carefully, but this is the kind of thing you need to stamp out early or later on it could really cause problems to your relationship.

Tell me about it ...

EXACTLY - I rung him & dropped it into conversation that she'd written that on his wall- he said
"Oh shes just like that!" to which i replied "I am not stupid, she has blatantly done it to get a reaction out of me!"
But clearly the sun shines out of her back side... I could sink to her level and write something on his wall - but frankly I am more mature than that...
Apparently he owes it to her to be nice about the situation and not "rub it in her face" as she has done alot for him & has helped him when no one else has.. to which i replied "Because she loves you!!"
I think the reason he thinks he can be like this is because I am strong, independant & am not an emotional wreck, were she is a imature, weepy, wallow in self pity sort of person...
I have spoken to him about this but he just doesnt seem to understand the fact that he (especially at this early stage) should be trying to prove himself to me .. possibly woo me slightly - but all I have had is grief
Why should we feel guilty about being together - all my friends think its odd & I'm starting to agree with them, I just dont know how to put it to him in such a way that he doesnt think i am being possesive or moaning ...but he knows I am not going to be second best!!
The thing is he says SUCH nice things to me & tells me not to worry as he doesnt think of her like that bla bla bla ...& tells me he is so glad he met me and stuff- but actions speak louder than words quite frankley!!

Thanks for your advice xxx

Wow

i know what you mean, and youre totally right, because youre not so clingy and needy he thinks he can leave you to do your own thing. In a way its nice, i think if you started acting like her hed just say he didnt need the stress and go. What youre doing is the right thing, its just hard.Eventually he'll see shes manipulating him and he'll realise that a true friend wouldnt do that. He sounds like a sweet good guy actually, its just a shame she sounds like a pyscho. Its nice that he doesnt want to hurt her feelings, just means you get the grief.

I think though that if it starts to affect your relationship, you have to be honest and say look shes youre friend i wont tell you who you can be friends with, but im your girlfriend and my opinion counts too, so we have to draw a line. Stick it out a while, maybe she'll get the hint. its not about throwing it in her face but I would try and find subtle ways to let her know you won, get over it!

Thanks

Out of all the advice I have seeked about this, that was the best! lol

Thanks so much,
as you say he'd probably back off if I started getting like her - he says the reason he respects me / likes me so much is because I have my own place, do my own thing, am comfortable with myself etc etc
He is a nice guy & I think he is trying to keep everyone happy - its just she clearly kicks up more of a stink than me...so he has to tread carefully with her...

But I think if I play it cool he will soon realise her behaviour is stupid imature & irrational ... and I like the idea of a subtle way of letting her know I won

tbh, the reason she wrote on his wall is to maybe find out who I am / what I look like (as she hasnt seen a picture of me yet)
not blowing my own trumpet - but compared to her - I think it will be a bit of a kick in the teeth for her anyway! lol

Thanks again for your advice - has really helped me

x x x

Lol

I like that, nothing wrong with a bit of confidence, thats the best thing to do then, make sure you know a time and place she will be there to see you guys together and make sure you look drop dead gorgeous. I bet that will put her off and make her keep off your man! OR you can dress up in something damn sexy, take a pic (not too revealing lol) and give it to him to put on his profile, that should shock her a bit haha and she might go and sulk and leave you guys alone