Confusion

Hey
I have posted on here a few times about the relationship I am in... which tbh has been dramas from the start & eventually things are getting better.
My BF has a female friend thats in love with him and very jealous of what me and him have (I have never met her as we have a semi Long distance relationship)
Over the last week I have had a myserious female sending me messages on Face book (profile set so private I cant even see a profile picture, any friends - and more frustratingly cant even reply to any of the messages)
Basically all the messages insinuating that she is with my BF and she is sleeping with him etc...The only person I think it could be is this female friend... My BF went mad at her and said if it is her thats doing it all hell will break loose ...
the thing is we cant prove its her - and she rung him crying giving it the whole
"I cant believe you think its me" story - which obviously she is bound to deny it - I know its her!!
He didnt talk to her for a few days and she was constantly texting him declaring her innocence etc
Now he is talking to her again - & I think he even believes its not her thats sent the messages - and he has even insinuated it could be someone on my side -WHICH IT ISNT
They are getting all chummy again and I am the one who is left frustrated by these messages and her pathetic attemp to ruin what we have (funnily enough the messages have stopped)
I just dont know what to do to make him see she is clearly psycotic!!!

My feelings are up and down, One min I feel ok - and the next I am not sure if I can be bothered to deal with this hassle
He is very attractive and gets alot of attention - even when i am there (which is a WHOLE other issue)
He says all the right things to me and I do trust him ... but there is something niggling at me and I do not like this girl as I know her game....
When I was single (which I was for a year previously) I was happy and outgowing ... but since being in this relationship - I always feel so jealous, sensitive and that I am not in control of the situation....
ARRGGUUUHHHH!!!!!
Any advise would be great - Thanks xx

Sounds like its not quite working . . .

You obviously both really like each other and have really tried hard with each other. But this relationship sounds like it isn't making you happy.

This Girl sounds like she needs a good slap. But i will tell you don't do it and don't sink to her level. Your boyfriend is very nieve to believe her its a shame you cant prove its her. Does you boyfriend enjoy your jelousy ? Some people enjoy making their partners feel insecure. Unfortunatley it does the partners self esteem no end of harm.

Like you said think about things and ask yourself is this relationship really what you want. If it is great if not youv'e got out with your self esteem in tact.

Hope i have helped and good luck.

Thanks

Thanks Michelle - some good advice there
Yes I do believe he likes making me jealous... it probably boosts his self esteem - your quite right..
The thing is he isnt nieve - which is the annoying thing.
He tells me he is so lucky to have found me and that if he'd have met me years ago he wouldnt have had to go thru all the hassle his previous relationships have given him... and I have NO worries with this girl...
But one min, I believe what he says and the next min I cant help thinking its all an act...
But then I wonder who would want to hurt someone by building their hopes up, and I know he has been hurt in the past... but then, who hasnt?
I have actually split up with him once as I couldnt be bothered to deal with the hassle - but we spoke about things, he got quite upset & we sorted it out ...
But not only that - he got quite personal with me when I split up with him and basically told me no wonder i'd never had anything meaningfull if I was willing to throw it away over something so minor.... btw - I was engaged for 2 years b4 him- so I'd call that meaningfull
Thanks again for your adice xx