Internet chatting

Hello i just need a bit of advice:

I met my partner online June 2004, we started off as friends (there was 200 miles between us) slowly things changed and we met up a couple of times and then in December of the same year he moved to be with me.

The only problem i have is that he chats on MSN to this other woman (he started talking to her before he met me about 1yr before he started talking to me) and sometimes it gets very flirty and even sexual comments every now and again and the same with the text messages, this really gets me down and he keeps telling me that she is just a good friend and that is all (they have never met or spoken on the phone) - every other part of our relationship is good, i do trust him to a certain degree but im very cautious as i have been cheated on 4 times before and so i tend to have my guard up.

I do love him dearly and i know he loves me but i cant help thinking the worst sometimes.

I'd appreciate any feedback or advise.

Thank you

Help;

someone talk to me i'm lonely

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In the same boat

I seem to have the same problem. I met my bloke on the internet in April 2005. it is a long distance relationship and i only get to see him weekends. I found out that he was using msn to contact other women. I confronted him about it and he said that he needed to find some new freinds and they were there to talk to when he had noone else. i didn't blow my top but sat down with him and quietly asked him why and how it made him feel.After hours of disagreeing we came to the discision that he showed me the messages. i could see that some flirting was happening and he said he didn't realise that is how it looked. he was only trying to be freindly. i told him that if that what he wants to do then i could sit with him one time while he writes to them. Maybe he could mention me and see what reaction he got. We almost split cuz he thinks i dont trust him. I trust him, but from thinking how we met i can see how easy it is to get carried away and attatched to someone emotionally without meeting them. I hope you manage to sort things out without too much upset. GOOD LUCK

Leave him

girl if you have been cheated on 4 times then you are messing with the wrong men. If you want my advice i say leave him.

Hey gurl

Hey my name is Tt, thats short 4 Tatyanna. Gurl you have every right 2 feel the way u feel. And if the gurl and him r just friends then it shouldn't b no reason 4 them 2 be all flirty and sayin sexual things 2 each other. Friends dont do that. Just talk 2 him and tell him how u feel, try 2 make him understand u. Just flip the and then u start talkin 2 other dudes online. And flirt and say sexual things 2 the dude. And when he ask bout it juss say oh he's just a friend. Don't tell him that u r only talking 2 the dude cause he is talkin 2 the gurl. Well w/b and let me know how everything worked out.

ALWAYS GOT MUCH LUV 4 U
And always remember 2 can play that game.

Net chatting

I was recently involved on an emotiotional level with a woman who is in an ongoing relationship with her boyfriend. I too am a married guy who wanted to just be an ear for her to talk to. A lot of our communication like what you are experiencing was online and via texting. Anyway, she opened up very frankly to me and we become very close emotionally. We did meet up a couple of times for a hug and a chat but nothing ever happened beyond that - we both knew that wold not help either of us - especially her as she had a lot on.


Does he openly show you his chat logs/text messages? If he does then I would say he is not intending to cheat on you. If yo trust one another then you both have nothing to hide, right? How often does he chat to thsi woman - every day, once a week? If he's chatting every day - perhaps even 2-3 times a day then I'd say his focus is on her and not on you. If this is the case - ask him why he spends so much time with her. You may not feel comfortable doing that but relationship issues are best resolved by putting your cards on the table and simply talking.

Hope this helps

Ian