Scared of sex?

Hi, i really dont know where to start.....im 19 and ive never done anything with a lad, ive always been scared too and i push them away when i think were at the point of doing physical stuff except kissing. Basically when i was younger, like 5 years old, my older cousin use to climb on top of me and move as if we were having sex and he would just get his willy out all the time and lay on top of me. then when i was 12 i was in his room, and i looked up and he had his willy hanging out the leg of his shorts, and he had locked his door, but when he heard me shakey voice ask him to let me out he did and i never went back in, nothing else has happened since then, but whenever my mates talk about sex i always feel really uncomfortable and think of people having sex and bj's and stuf as wrong. sometimes i do wnt sex but im jsut way to scared, im really self concious of my private bits aswell as my inner lips hang down an bit and i dont think any lad will liek it. please help me im going insane trying to beat this fear of sex. i dont even like being alone with a lad even if hes my boyfriend at that time. help!

Kelly x

Hey gurl!!

Hi my name is Donnell I am from Topeka ks I am 15 yr old this is what I have to say to you okay:

Your Relationship doesn't need to be all about SEX!! Does you boyfriend now about what your brother did..

Hey
This happen to me but my step-dad did it to me and I am in foster care right now he did it to me when I was 13 and I am 15.. I had sex with so Mexican and I was so scared. I am bi now because of what my dad did to me I was straight now i am bi that is sad but I like it so yeah!!
Hope you get better and over this stuff I now it's hard to but I have to go to court for all of what my step dad did and I am so sad because he been in my life since I was a baby and he been there for me and i am miss him and i cry all the time wounder why why all this have to happen to me

Love ya girl
hang in there girl write back when u read this ok

Hi

Hi Kelly

I don't really know what to suugest as these sound like very deep emotional issues you are carrying here that I think possibly only counselling can help with. Your mind has been tainted from a young age about sex and you need to lift that and understand that sex is the most natural thing two people can do.

As for your private bits, no two are the same, I'm sure yours is very normal and only a very immature bloke would say it's not.

The only thing I can suggest hun is to get some counselling to overcome your issues and to understans that what your cousin did to you was probably just normal kiddy behaviour, the fact that he hasn't tried anything since says that he knows what he was doing was wrong. Also so you come to terms with sex being normal and hopefully move on to a happy fulfilling relationship.

I hope this helps xx