Looking for advice

well here goes, I have been with my current partner for 3 yrs and I love him a lot, he moved into my house within a year of us going out and brought his 16 yr old son[I have 2 wee boys 9 and 11 from a previous relationship] ,at first things where cool now however I seem to have assumed the role of chief cook and bottle washer,I am financially better off than him and have been footing the bills for almost everything.I feel tired most of the time taking care of everything and feel that he is only with me to make life easier for himself and his son,he left his last home as it was broken into and was not a nice place to live,his son is draining me financially, he sits up all night on an x box, smokes like a chimney and leaves everything at his ass.I do complain but get nowhere as he won't hear a word against his son.As I sit here in my bedroom the two of them are down in the sitting room on said xbox, this seems to be more of a regular occurance these days and I feel so lonely.He also has loads of female friends who are a lot younger than me who he keeps in touch with through facebook, one of these girls wants to meet up with him and I am not happy about this, he thinks this is okay to meet with them and I feel like a neurotic freak.I guess I AM JEALOUS but I DON'T think it is normal for him to spend time with these women.Sometimes I think that if he had the resources he would be off like a shot, what can I do? My self esteem is low and I feel like asking him to leave, am I being silly?

Not at all..

This guy and his son is taking the living pee - you are not their housekeeper, this is ridiculous! You need to speak to him and tell him how you feel, you need to set some ground rules, this is not a doss house. As for younger women on Facebook, that is a no go, I absolutely hate facebook myself as I have seen it ruin so many relationships, but no I don't think you are being silly for getting upset about him meeting these younger girls. What is the reason for this, how does he know them, sounds more like his 16 year old son should be meeting them and not him.

You need to air your feelings with him and fast otherwise you will end up resenting the pair of them and there is usually no coming back when it gets to that stage.

Good luck but stand your ground, these two are taking the mick and you need to let them know it's not on!

Thanks pet.

Yes you are right,I think a few choice words and a good kick up the proverbial are in order.As for meeting these girls I have reminded him that I don't need facebook to meet men there are plenty out about in the town who would love to 'meet' with me, he spent time in Romania last year that is where he met these girls and he maintains they are all just friends,now I have pointed out to him that I could have male friends and he went quiet, what is good for the goose and all that, he would freak if I met up with another man, so he has been given some food for thought. Thanks for your sensible advice and honest opinion, I feel so much better today and will not be putting up with any more nonsense from the pair of them, at the end of the day he has more to loose than I do,and I'm sure he realises this as he maintains that I'm the best thing that ever happened to him, he will have to start proving this ....and fast. Once again ty for your help

Pleased you are feeling better - keep us posted on how things go with the 'chat' - mostly that's all these fellas need, a little reminding that we can do just as well if not better without them, that should give him the boot he needs!!

Good luck!