Help how can i get my boyfriend 2 appreciate me? please help

hi ive been with my boyfriend 4 2years now and he just dont seem 2 appreciate me anymore he never wants 2 do anything with me all he wants 2 do is go out fishing with his mates and when ever i ask him if he wants 2 go out he always says no. its seems 2 me he only wants me around when he ent got anything else 2 do. i love him 2bit.

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Hellooo Hun,

I read your post and thought I had to reply to this one, I have been in exactly the same boat as you, Not nice is it ? They make you feel unwanted and unappreciated and you get sick of making all the effort and trying to keep the relationship alive. Well it happend to me and my ex didnt wana know, I was always offering to do stuff together etc etc and he just didnt seem interested, He payed more attention to his xbox to even realise I was there, Eventually my feelings for him went and I felt like th relationship had died, I finally ended it after trying hard to make it work but I just didnt feel the same anymore and decided the best thing to do was to split up. To be honest however unfair this sounds it was the best decision I made, Im now happy with a new man who appreciates every little thing I do, Always wants to do things together etc hes amazing, Id advice you to have a real good talk to your boyfriend see what he says if he changes see how long it lasts if he goes back to the borin old self he is, then end it, coz believe me you'll find someone who will want to spend time with you and want to be with you unlike him, he sounds like hes too comfy and thats not good enough, I spoke to my ex about how i felt and he started making effort and then went back to normal and then when we split he realised what he had lost and Id lost feelings for him, so it'll be your boyfriends loss if he carrys on treating you like that and you break up with him coz it'll be his own fault, you deserve better than that.

Hope everything works out for the better whatever that maybe .. Good luck anyways hun

Chelsea

x

Play him at his own game

You should take a leaf out of his book and make loads of plans with your mates, family, etc and basically make yourself as unavailable as possible. Once he realises that you won't just be sitting around waiting for him to want to do something with you, he will start to appreciate you more and make more effort to make arrangements with you.

I know it sounds a bit like mind-games, but sometimes actions speak louder than words and you have to show him what he's missing rather than tell him.

It worked for me anyway! I hope it does for you too xx

Sorry for late reply

Well, I agree that you could make other plans. But the backlash of that is that it might lead him to jealousy or suspicion over why you suddenly don't want to spend time with him.
Perhaps you could attempt to get involved in each other's activities? Or set up a completely new line of activities for one-another? Like mix and match (despite that sounding childish)?