Does anyone else feels they are no longer wanted, just a mum?

This may seem a little like a 'woe is me' letter but I'm so frustrated and you ladies seem to be really helpful.

Have been married for 5 years. He is a wonderful man - bubbly, intelligent and good looking but this persona is fizzling out at home. It's not a new thing but it is getting worse and I'm getting more and more upset by it.

No longer will he ask my opinion about intelligentthings like he used to, he is always 'too tired' to do anything let alone have sex and he snaps at me so quickly. Since the baby arrived this has got worse because I am almost an outsider.

I have always tried to make sure that I look quite nice and I do my utmost to do things that I think he'd appreciate like encourage romantic evenings together, make sure that our home is nice etc but it (appears) like it goes unnoticed.

I don't think he's being unfaithful, just solazy and uninterested about things to the point where I am fed up and tearful and perhaps this is having a knock on effect???

My marriage is meant to be loving and intimate and it is just so practical and affection is only seen when I seek it like some kind of desperate woman.

Any ideas? Am I being unrealistic? What should I do?


xxx

Hi

Just thought i would reply not that I have any answers but am in the same boat. met my fella 5 years ago, already had a 2 year old daughter. we been together for 5 years have a 3 year old, bought a house but lately seem more like friends than anything else. My advice to you would be to talk to your hubby, maybe suggest counselling. if he's just not the type who would do that then get your gladrags on, go for a good girlie night out and let him see how gorge you look on your way out while he is left babysitting. sometimes actions speak louder than words xxx