Husband and his ex
I'm really upset with my husband at the moment, as he's been e-mailing his ex behind my back. I'm very insecure about his exes because when we first got together he told me far too much about his past life, how wonderful it was, what a great time he had and what fun he had with ex girlfriends including his sexual exploits. Once when we were cuddled up in bed together after being intimate he started going on about one ex and told me she was lovely. I was sexually abused as a teenager and felt I couldn't tell him to stop going on as it might mean I had to tell him about my past, something I wasn't ready to do at the time, so I put up with months of stories about the old days, how good life was etc, to the point where I felt totally second best and that I had to be Miss Perfect to try and measure up to these exciting exes of his. I eventually made some excuse and told him I was sick of hearing about it and he was stunned, didn't realise how his stupid comments had hurt me so much and couldn't apologise enough. Trouble is, the images and the feelings of insecurity he created weren't that easy to get rid of, particularly as I'm not the most confident of people in the first place. I had counselling and therapy to try to deal with my abusive past and it helped a lot, and along with the brilliant support I've always had from him I started to feel much better. We got married in the summer and had a wonderful honeymoon and I really felt that I was managing to put all my insecurities behind me.
That was until last week, when I discovered he's been talking to an ex online. He told me she was just an old friend. He knows I'm happy for him to talk to old friends but that I am very, very sensitive about his exes and that having anything to do with them would hurt me a lot. Despite knowing this he went ahead and did it, while I was out of the way at work. They talked about how they'd often thought about each other, always wanted to see or speak to each other again, he mentioned the clothes and make up she used to wear, talked about a weekend away they'd had and remembered her birthday. They even apologised to each other for the way things ended. When I confronted him he said he knew I'd be upset so that's why he didn't tell me she was an ex, he tried to justify it by saying the bit about their relationship only took up one small paragraph and the rest was just talking about mutual friends etc. He's very apologetic but I don't think he really sees he's done anything wrong, I feel like such a mug - I was out working to provide for him and his 3 kids as we have full custody and he doesn't work. Because of his kids we can't have a social life and I've always felt that he's not bothered because he's already had his fun with someone else - something he's always denied and said he never thinks of his exes and only wants to be with me, something I'm not convinced of any more. I don't know what to do for the best - we've contacted relate for online counselling but it's so expensive. I feel so betrayed, used and rubbish at the moment.
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