Need help with my bf

Hi,

I met this guy about 3 months ago. I felt really close to him as soon as i start knowing him more. He shows a lot of care and made me feel very special. He told me that he is falling for me after about 20 days we started going out. I did feel the same way however i did not tell him and wait for the right time. During this period we also spent night together and i felt it was the best night ever.
I feel the change in his behavior, as in he doesnt talk to me as much, dont call me as much ... only text me. Even that is very less now. I did ask him if he wanted to keep this relationship, i told him if he doesnt i wont bother him. I am a very straight forward person and likes things to be straight but he say he wants me and he loves me. At the same time i feel like i am trying too hard to get his attention as he doesnt message me or call me as much as i do. I also know that he works two jobs, and may be its the work thats keeping him busy. Can anyone help me ... what i need to know if i should stop calling/txt him ? i do not want to involve myself too much with him if he is not a right person for me. I am studying too but i cant focus when he ignores me.... what should i do?? i do want to be with him but i dont want to beg him all the time to talk me either...

I smell a rat.

The guy has used you and now he is disposing of you.

He told you what you wanted to hear - to get in your pants.


You are feeding his ego every time you text, call or email. So stop immediately.

The problem with men and women is; women are straight - we like to know what is going on and that's it. Where as men prefer to use and abuse women for the cheap frill of it.

Move on. Cut contact and don't ruin your studies for this Grade - A LOSER.

Unfortunately - you saw different things - you saw a possibility for love and companionship and he saw an easy lay.

DO NOT contact him ANY FORM.

Every time you contact him - you are feeding his overly inflated ego each time you do. Stop degrading yourself.

How can you find the right guy, when you are obsessively spending your energy and time on the wrong guy?


You can't.


Move on.


x x x

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It seems that he's not taking this as seriously as you. Yeah, he may have 2 jobs, and that's to be respected, but I'm sure he gets a long enough lunch break to call as opposed to text, and when he gets home, he should want to visit you.
Just don't text him for a while. If he's worth it, you'll get a phone call by him within less than a day. He'll notice something's wrong, even if he's busy. If he's not worth it...well, you'll know in a few days.
Or tell him about your concerns, tell him as to why you feel insecure and how he can change that?

Hope it helped, good luck x