He's been seeing his ex during our whole relationship

Hi!

Needing some advice here - recently, my partners ex called his house whilst I was there for "a chat", to discover that he couldn't talk, she confronted him and he admitted that yes, someone else was there and he's seeling someone. The apparent upshot of this is, he's been meeting her as a friend throughout our year and a half together. He's tried to reassure me that they haven't slept together and he hasn't even kissed her! They were together for 5 yrs before we met and only broke up a few months before that. He said he was a coward and couldn't tell me she was still on the scene incase it hurt me. He can't explain to me why she didn't even know he had a girlfriend... I'm struggling to accept that there was nothing physical going on, he said she doesn't excite him, and had previously told me (before I discovered all this) that they very rarely had sex as she wasn't "in to it". She's very firey and gave him a lot of grief throughout their relationship, but he still seen her as a friend. What do you think of that?? Am i just being a complete mug for sticking with him?

Help! x

Hi there!

Hi there!

Do you really have a reason to doubt your partner? Have you ever had the feeling that he's been having a physical relationship to someone else? I mean before you found out that he's been seeing his ex during your relationship. Maybe you can help me and explain why "new relationships" are so doubting when it comes down to the "ex"....? I'm in the position of the Ex. The thing is, I get on with my ex- husband better since separating from him, than in all the years we were together. He got together with his girlfriend about six months after we split up. We'd been together for nearly 18 years. Of course he was and always will be a part of my life. We have three kids together. The really nice thing is, that we now get along. His girlfriend has really big problems with that. She's so jealous (and probably insecure) and has absolutely NO reason to be that way.

Whilst we were together I never felt that he was a friend. I know thats a shame. Maybe its the same way with your partner. Try not to be jealous or worried. That will put a lot of pressure on your relationship. It might even push him away from you eventually. Alittle jealousy is ok, even flattering, but too much is destroying. If you love him, then you're not a mug for staying with him. In trying to spare your feelings he has probably done exactly the opposite! in the end. Quite stupid but undoubtedly with honorable motives.

If you've never had a reason to doubt him up til now, then don't start doing so. It'll do nobody any good.

I do hope that I could help you and would really like to try and understand why "new relationships" have such problems with the old ones.

Take care
Twilight

Dump his dusty ass

my advice to u is:let the dog go.....u can't teach a old doog new tricks.....of course they havin sex....he's not man enough to be commited so he will always cheat...men they're all dogs.....there is no good men out there.....none...

Try

Try sniffing his fingers - if he says he has been eating prawns give him a black eye