So lonely...

I've been living a love relaionship for 6 years.
We are not married and don't live together neither. But I'd like to...

Its seems that he's been living the life like a single man: he's got many projects ... and I am not one of them. I'm thinking about leaving him alone. I'd like to have children, to buy a house, start dancing salsa in a club, have holiday week-ends throughout Europe, to take a walk in animal parks, forest and so on...
I'd like to live another life: we are not students anymore! We both work today. We can think about other pleasant things every week!
But every week... he's everywhere but not at home.

I can't stand living a love-life like that. What can i do? or... what can we do? I'm beginning no to love him anymore.

New discussion last night.

We had a new discussion last night about our love relationship.
I told him that I am not loving him anymore... He got very worried!
He said that he wasn not loving me anymore days by days too.
BUT (!) the problem is that we would like to live a love-relationship with a person like me and he. Deep in his heart, he feels like he can make many life-projects with a woman like me ans I feel, deep in my heart, i could do many projects withy a man like he.
Last night, so, I told him that it was over.
This thursday morning, at 6h00, he told me there may be a solution for our problem: he proposed to look at the problem without paying attention to the question of loving-each other. His conclusion was to stay together and he's ready to improve: he's ready not to spend all his time on searching jobs but giving us time to psend together, he's ready to help me clean the house, he's ready not to phone his mother everyday and everytime he needs an advice (I am here!). As for me, I'm ready to go on speaking truly, to tell me whatever I don't like in what he does/says. I will speak more and won't wait to speak until it's too much for me to support in silence.

Do you think it's realistic when the love-fire has begun to die down?
Has this ever happened to you?

It's getting worse...

I've talked to him this last week-end. The things has gone worse than before. I didn't expect that...
He shaved yesterday night. He usually don't the clean the bathroom when he shaves. I ask him , very gently, to clean and... then he became very angry with me and told me that he won't do it because I never do clean his house when I go at his home! Then, I explained him that I don't like the way he doesn't respect my work (house cleaning) and I don't like when he waits FOR ME TO CLEAN HIS HOUSE. While I'm not at his home, he doesn't clean even a little bit! And we argue like this all night long! We both got in to sleep with backs face to face.

I'm worried: I think he doesn't love me anymore. He stays with me because his mother has told him to stay with me. She told him, also, that she doesn't like the way I don't clean HIS house, she doesn't like the way I cut my hair, the way I dress myself etc...

HEEEEELP!

Leave him!!!

I was where you are now. I was in a relationship for five years. He was never going to give me what I needed. If I'd stayed, we never would have had kids, got married, etc. He wasn't in to that. It's not selfish to want or need more. Life's too short! You should have kids. You should dance salsa in a club. You should holiday in Europe!!! You go, girl.

I'm thinking about that too

I'm beginning to think about that, sister... Things are getting worse now...
I want to be happy. I deserve to be happy like anybody else on this planet.

Lonely

I think its time pal to get out why you can.Your free to do what you want.live life to the full.

Tell him how you feel...

Tell him how you feel...tell him your desires, future plans etc. if he loves you he will at least be interested at whet you have to say. relationships are about give and take..you need to see if you really have the same goals in life? doesnt really sound like he does..maybe he just wasts you as a convenient girlfriend when it suits him.. if that doesnt suit you then you must tell him and move on if he doesnt want to sort thing out with you.

good luck hun.

Searching for a job

Last day, he told me that the most important thing for him was hiw research for a job (he's graduated in ingeneering since 2004, and hasn't found a job yet, he does little job here and there). But he keeps on coming to my home when he knows that he's a got an appointment for a job the next day.

That gets me so sad...

I will talk to him, when he'll come back this week-end. I agree with you.

Work in russia

I think to suggest you a job.Try to be realtor it will be intresting for you.Or a lot of people wants to study Enlish esp in Russia welcome to St.Petersburg/



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