Bloody fedup!

Hi to everyone, I,ve just been browsing thru this pg and its looks good with lots of advice.
(1) I will try not to babble on,,,,,
(2) Am not a good speller iether so bear with me plz.

Here goses, I,ve been with my partner for 5yrs(not long eh but feels a lift time.We have 3 children 8,7,3, the youngest is his, I,ve been living with him for nearly 4 yrs. And we just dont get on, we have driffted apart Big Time! We dont speak at all, I just ignor him as if he wasnt there now, He dont come home till very late at night or dosent come home,I supose i dont blame him i wouldnt iether but i have kids so i carnt.We have been to relate, to try and solve this, but it was no gud, hes a worker holic and only has time for work, as for the kids well they dont see him, evan at weeknds hes out or busy in the garden,
I want ti#o leave him so much and move on,But...its starting again, theres so much to think about ie work childcare money somewhere to live, I sorry for going on but i dont really had many people to talk to, as i worry about many friends all they hear about is him,
So if there is any one out there plz talk to me.
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Moving on starts with the first step....so do it!!

so.... what the hell are you waiting for?? maybe until you're another couple of years older? you say five years already feel like a lifetime....?!? Neither of you guys seem to be happy, so get out of there. Maybe your partner feels just the same as you and your both kinda waiting for the other person to speak up and end the torture. besides all that.... whar good are you two doing those kids of yours? you're teaching them to put up with something that is obviously not even a bad compromise...it's worse. Please...don't teach them to just make do. teach them, by example, that it's worth trying to find happiness.

If you want to make that relationship work, then you BOTH have to do something for it. which you say you have tried. I spent nearly twenty years trying to make mine work. It was really good at times, but most of the time it wasn't. I wasted soooo much time and energy. and I didn't do my kids any good either. I also have three.
sure, there are things to think about. Start thinking. You don't have to have everything sorted out by next weekend or anything. Take your time. speak to your partner about it. you never know he might surprise you. he might say he doesn't want to lose you and really start doing something for your relationship or he might help you look for somewhere to live.
i know how hard it can be....and i also know that talking can help a lot....so here are my ears and a virtual shoulder if you need one. whatever you decide is your decision. noone can take that off your shoulders....but like i said, you've got to start doing something....even if its just thinking about making a decision.

let me know how things develop

twilight