Hey I used to thought that same thing and yea it is a big deal but being a slut is dumb I do want to same mine till I'm married too but Im worried that no guy will wait for me. Im already 17 and going to college soon does make me want to meet my true love and i do want it to be speacial and just reacently I changed my decsion I will have a 6 month limit. You have to idmit though it your ddecision not your parents so do what you think is right if your already a good person you can have sex because not that many people save till marriage. It not like you'll go to hell. Bu the way Im not ugly too. If you love someone you should have sex but make sure he loves you back. YOu can also put limits or if you really belive in this whole be a virgin thing then do it no matter what guy wants you to give it up!

Hi, I'm 16 and all my friends are kinda not virgins. My friends aren't ones to lie but they're sluts and most people in my year have lost their virginity. I want to wait until I'm married because I want it to be special to me but when I told some of my friends they laughed at me and I just wanted to die. Is there anyone else on here who's waited for the right person? Or am I just wierd?

By the way, I'm not ugly or anything, my family is just religious and I really don't want to waste something like this. x x x Please help x x x I don't know whether to give in and just lose it to someone.

Ok, I'm 16 and very proud of being a virgin even though I'm legal to have sex now. All these comments are really good ones and I get them all and where they come from. Some people think it is special and that I should hold onto it longer, be unique and such. Other people are saying that they've made the same decision and regretted it, others telling me I'm missing the fun. I've been thinking, It's so special to me and I want to make a decision where I can say... it was the right thing to do for me.
Let's jsut say I live in a town where I've heard the girls are loose moralled. I'm not originally from this place so I guess I'm not the same. All my friends have called me wierd because I'm "not getting laid" and their conclusion is that "It's because I'm either a lesbian or not attractive". Well I'm not a lesbian and when I get whistled at down the street and when I got my first offer for sex from a guy when I was just 13 I could eliminate those factors. So am I wierd?
By law of peer pressure I should not be a virgin. My friends and whole town and my parents didn't wait until marriage. So what was my influence?
Do you wish you had lost your virginity earlier or later? What do you wish you had done? How has your life worked out after losing yours? Did you regret it? Any advice or helpful lessons you have learnt would be nice
Meanwhile thankyou to everyone who has currently commented, your views have changed some of mine and have helped alot. x x x

Hey there, I just wanted to say that it is a great thing that you have decided to wait until you're married. Your friends might laugh at you, but people just can't understand the importance of your pledge to yourself. A lot of people these days don't understand self control or morals. But don't give in just to do it, you should wait until you're married because there are No consequences of being abstain. But there are MANY consequences of having sex. There are many many people out there that wish that they could make the decision that you've made and carry it out.

<3 Erika

well you better do something then move out with your boy

my boyfriend want to see me but i dont knoe

Hey girl, I just want to tell you that it's great that you're saving sex for marriage. I've always experienced the same exact situation. Basically, all of my friends weren't virgins and they all used to make fun of me when I told them that I was waiting until I got married. They were all like

Do you preach any particular faith? I think it is great that you want to be a virgin until marriage, even though you see that all you friends are 'doing it',it shows that you are a strong girl. If you sleep with a guy even though he's your boyfriend, he could lie about his feelings towards you and use you for sex and you might not marry him. BUT if you keep strong and wait till you fall in love with a guy who accepts your decision to stay as a virgin until marriage and supports you, then you'll know that you've found someone worth keeping. REMEMBER that your first sexual experience will remain in your memory forever, don't you think that that memory should be of the person you love that will be with you forever i.e. your husband? I REALLY think you should wait, not only because of the immorality of sleeping around but because of the diseases you could catch.
Don't feel pressured by your friends, there are celebrities that married as virgins such as A.C. Milan's footbal player, Kaka and his wife. The gorgeous supermodel, Adrian Lima is saving herself for marriage and I think this shows an incredible amount of slef-control and strength and shows that a woman can be strong.
WAIT TILL MARRIAGE kittycom!

im 18 and i one of my friend hasnt had sex yet and me and my friends respect her for this because she is waiting for the right time and the right person. if i was you i would wait untill you are ready!!!
You will get more respect if you wait and dont give in.!!!!!
Good Luck

hi im 13 and i havent even kissed a boy all ive done is hugged so i need real tips and fast on how to pull and get a boyfriend even tho 7 ppl fancie me im scared to say yes just incase they wanna pull me

I would not wait because what if you fall in love and get married to find he is a selfish lover and you are not satisfied? Sex is very important in a relationship and im so glad me and my partner both had wonderfull sexual experiance before we got together, i dont think we would still be together right now if we met as virgins. Experiance is important we are both very confident in our love making and we would never stray especiall him because there is no temptation of cheating as we have both know that the other side of the grass in no greener. We are now planning our wedding and life is great!!

I also just like you wanted to wait until i got married , but I regret that waiting now very much.
I was such a believer of love and waited until i was 23 to make it with the man I loved truly while almost all my friends were changing sexual partners all the time and having fun. So many years I though keeping my virginity was something i should feel proud of and sure my hUSsband was glad I was a virgin , but just recenty i have discover that he has been cheating on me and he has been meeting a few girls only for sex.... So now I am sure keeping my virginity and loosing so many years of expirience and fun was not worthed...
I think you should wait until you find a sweet boyfriend for whom you will have feelings and then just do it so never mind if you will be 17,18 20... that dosnt matter what matters is when do you want to do it and with whom.
wishing you all the best.
Ida.

Honey, this isn't something you should just throw away! this is something special and as corny as it may sound, you should wait for the right person to come along, so that you feel loved and respected, not used and abused!

Besides, sleeping with someone just so your friends won't laugh at you is ridiculous! They may have reputations as sluts, but doesn't mean that you have to have that reputation too! Remember, those you care don't matter, and those who matter don't care!!

good luck, and i hope you make the right decision!

Hey I used to thought that same thing and yea it is a big deal but being a slut is dumb I do want to same mine till I'm married too but Im worried that no guy will wait for me. Im already 17 and going to college soon does make me want to meet my true love and i do want it to be speacial and just reacently I changed my decsion I will have a 6 month limit. You have to idmit though it your ddecision not your parents so do what you think is right if your already a good person you can have sex because not that many people save till marriage. It not like you'll go to hell. Bu the way Im not ugly too. If you love someone you should have sex but make sure he loves you back. YOu can also put limits or if you really belive in this whole be a virgin thing then do it no matter what guy wants you to give it up!

Hey i feel the same my family are religious to i dont exactly wanna wait till im married but if thats how you feel you should stick your ground. All my friends drink and i feel i want to wait till im at the legal age at first all my friends laughed but after a couple of years of sticking my ground they really respect me!! you should stand by what you believe in its important to think for yourself show the world that you can be a strong independant teenager who isnt afraid to have values!

Hi
HOW are you ?
you are right , don't worry from your friends , you must wait until find your right man , i am from Egypt it is Arabic countary the girls must be virgin when she marry, so just concentate in you lesson you are too small , but you are so wise too.
don't do anything , you must be satisfied to do it not for your friends doing it
bye

hi honey!

oh, to be 16 again!! don;t hang onto your virginity just for the sake of it. but also don;t sleep around just 'cause that;s what your mates are doing. If Mr. Right appears and you are sure it;s what you want, then enjoy. Whatever you do, honey, don't let yourself get pressured into anything. Not by your peer group or by your boyfriend. Don;t get me wrong, when I say don;t wait all those years.... I;m not saying that teenagers should lose their virginity as soon as poss. .... neither girls nor boys, for that, but if you wait until you;re married...well...
1) you may start asking yourself what you missed out on, which can cause real frustration
2) you may start asking yourself if you;re going to be "good enough" which is really silly, but it happens
3) you might just decide to marry the wrong man, just to "lose it" and belong to the group of ladies that can talk about "it" (don't laugh...I know a few girls who;ve done that. they also didn't want to lose their virginity for religious reasons and ended up really unhappy in the end. Doesn't have to happen, but going into marriage as a virgin is all else than a guaranty)

If you have a boyfriend and are convinced that its what you want, then have fun trying it out. Don;t be too disappointed though. I don't know anybody who said their first time was a real "earth moving experience" I also wouldn't say sex is not worth the hype. It gets better as time goes on! The more you know about yourself, the better it gets, basically. And if you have the right partner.... what more do you want!?! To be honest, I don't think that the first person you have sex with is the right person for a lifetime. but, also, that can happen.

If you do give in, then to yourself, and not to others.
enjoy your life, you;ve got it all ahead of you

luv
twilight

"Hey i need help "

hey.... I hope you can give me some advice....ok I lived in the USA for 5 years and now i live in germany with my mom and just seeing how teeangers live here looks like to me they all grow up so fas. Here, by the age of 14 or 15 many have lost their virginty and just soo many diff things that are awkward here than over there neway I will try to get to my point, ok I am still a virgin obviously, and I just feel embarassed to not have done it, when I lived over there I thought it was ok because so many people havent done it but when I see all the girls here its just like they have lived like half of there life...do you get what I mean? And i just feel like I am ready to loose my virginty and get it over with and just feel like I am a part of it and talk bout how my first time was...and another thing, I have known this girl for 13 years, shes my stepsister and she lost her virginty when she was 14 and I talk to her a lot about me wanting to do it and shes like well wait for the right guy and all this stuff but I feel stupid talkin to her bout because she has had 4 guys....omg I just dont kno what to do I would really appreciate if you could just give me some advice or something

Hi darling, I waited until i was nearly 24yrs because i wanted to find that special 'someone', unfortunately not sure if that was him, (slightly disappointed if it was!). Anyhow, i am not really what you would call 'RELIGIOUS' i don't preach, the reason for my wait at the time was i didn't chose to be held in high reguard for being a slag! But as the years went by all my 'friends' started having babies, and as that's all i ever wanted, it was a case of 'needs must'. I now have the most beautiful 2yr old little girl who is my lifes breath. I hate to be the bad penny, but although i would love to say 'hold on to it, it's precious' which it is! I have to say in my opinion what's the point? it never gave me any substance, i always felt left out of every conversation, rarely got invited out by the girls, (they thought i was dull and would put the boys off them) and to really top it all, when i found my 'bloke' he was 20 years my senior and i didn't really enjoy it that much. So i thought that waiting was (for me anyway) a waste of my time and energy. To think i could have been having fun all those years instead of holding back! I'm not saying shag the next bloke who comes round the corner NO, but if you meet a really nice bloke and not a SLAGHEAD (male version of a slag) my advice is don't be too cautious about saying 'No'. I hate to say it but sex is not all that (whatever your so-called-'friends' have to say). I wouldn't want you to wait all those years and then be hugely disappionted like me! Keep me informed!?! Rosie xxx

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ur still young babe n if u aint sure ur ready dont do it jus cos ur mates r doin it. its gonna leave u emotionally messed up, not yr friends. its a experience u wana remember for the rest of ur life, n u wana remember it for how gud it was not how messed up it left u. wen ur ready for it u'll no trust me. n if u wana w8 till yr married das gud too. dont give in babe! x

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