You seem very nice

she lucky to have met you
im in a bit of a simular situation mabey you shouldnt be there for her so much, mabey try some tough love it might make her see exactly what she has
good luck sab.

A confused man, an amazing girl, help!

I met a girl, 5 months ago, educated, stunningly attractive etc, she has a racey past, a Coke fuelled abusive relationship for the last 9yrs, hectic lifestyle of a Londoner and likes the nicer things in life. She is now clean(2 yrs). I on the other hand used to be a bit of a cad, girl in every port so to speak. Since meeting her, my life has changed, have been faithfull and havn`t even looked at another girl. I have opened up my heart to her (never have before) we talked about her moving to be with me, getting engaged etc.. She has become part of my life and encouraged this, it is very intense indeed and I have let myself go, exposed! She has now deceided that she wants to backtrack and slow down, which is fair enough. Stating that I used to be a challenge and now I have changed am no longer. She has as far as I`m aware never been loved, had 80+ lovers, aged 29. what I wish to know is this girl just messing me about? Did she just want the attention, feel wanted? or is she the confused, fragile girl I think she is? I want to end the relationship because she takes so much (maybe I give too much?) and gives very little (not sure she knows how too or just very selfish) but when she gives, it is fantastic and I would feel it such a waste to let her go, it is doing my head in!! Thanks

You seem very nice

she lucky to have met you
im in a bit of a simular situation mabey you shouldnt be there for her so much, mabey try some tough love it might make her see exactly what she has
good luck sab.

Slow down...

Its very nice 2 hear a bloke talking about a woman like u do... but it is fair 2 say that women like a challange. Im not saying be horrible 2 her but it does sound like she has had a very troubled past and the way yer talking u have maybe scared her a little. She has probably never felt like this before so its new 2 her but scarey.. I think maybe u should sit down with her and tell her that u really do love her and u want 2 b with her but at her pace.. U said its only been 5 months that u have been togther, honesty it would probably scare me a bit if u told me all them things and i have had a normal life, with only one lover (my fiance), 2 her it must have messed her head up a bit! U say she has been with 80+ lovers! I bet none of them have treated her as nicely as u do, or even told her they want 2 be with her the way u do.. Just give her time she will come around, just slow things down a bit. Sounds like she could do with a nice bloke like u.. Good luck hope all goes well

Thankyou

Thanks, all seems clearer once written down, you are quite right, just get on with it!!