Can men and women be just friends?

I know this is such an old argument but I would be interested what people think.
I think men and women cannot deny a friendship with the opposite sex can have a sexual tension....but can they really be true buddies?

I've had many male friendships whilst in a relationship but I tend to not see them very often. My boyfriend has many female friends but one special one. He calls her his 'best friend' and told me over dinner about his love for her.

She stayed over one night I was away travelling and they see each other regularly.

I was not trusting of this relationship when my boyfriend's 'Facebook' profile stated he was 'single' and her postings to him (whilst she was travelling) went on about how much see missed him and hoped he missed her just as much....incidently he refused my request to join his Facebook.

There are also photos of him on her site holding bunch of flowers he has bought her (he never buys me flowers).

I have never met her and although he has known her for 4 years, (prior to our relationship), he only told me about her a year ago.

I just think a little bit of honesty and being open from the start could have prevented a lot of this.

What do you think?
Does it sound like more?
Can men and women ever be just friends or in this case, should I be suspicious?

Give him the boot, and quick!

I'm sorry to break this to you but your boyfriend wants his cake and eat it. He wants the advantages of being with you, as well as the advantages of trying to be with everyone other girl who takes his fancy too.

There is quite obviously something going on between him and this girl. He is blatantly disregarding your feelings and taking advantage of your love for him in order to do just as he pleases. Keep your dignity, love yourself, and leave, ASAP.

You can do better and you deserve sooooooo much better - a man who loves you and only you, and a man you can trust - he is out there somewhere, have the strength to find him xxx

Talk to him...

I think you should definitely talk about this with your boyfriend. Men and women can be good friends, without sexual tension, I have some male friends, but the bad thing is your situation is that he doesn't tell you everything about this relationship. You should ask him why.
If they are just friend he doesn't have a reason not to tell you about her. Let him know you don't mind that he has a female friend, some guys assume we will become jealous even if they're just friends so they think it's better not to say anything about it.

Good luck!

It's very possible

Men and women can be friends but it's a very tricky situation in some cases because you'd find one is sexually attracted to the other even if the other isn't, and so hanging on to the 'friendship' is just a disguised hope that it would eventually become more tha n just that. Your boyfriend sounds to me like he has some feelings for this 'friend' and she for him. They are probably each other's backup love and they're probably being in denial of it. The facebook thing sounds pretty suspicious to me. I bet he'd think different if you have a facebook with a 'bestfriend' he knows nothing about because 'it's just friendship'....I hope I don't come across as insensitive. Good luck.

Seems as if...

It sounds like he's carrying a MAJOR torch for this girl. I'd back off. Men and women can be great friends, but the Facebook stuff just seems ridiculous. Confront him, or dump him. I'm sure he's an okay guy, and you're a great woman, but sometimes these longstanding limerances can take serious tolls on a person's ability to have a serious relationship with someone other than the limerant object, no matter how much they like their current lover.

Dump him.

Your boyfriend doesn't sound like a very nice person. Being secretive is never a good sign. Men and women can be friends, but why would you hide someone who was just your friend?

Hey

honestly , i think men and women can be just good friends. i mean my boyfriends best friend is also my best friend and very close to my family and we hang out all the time but my bf knows when we hang out and stuff .. its no secret. but with your bf and this girl it does sound like more. why did he just tell you about her? .. and deny you on facebook? you need to sit down and talk to him and be honest and tell him how you feel. i hope everything works out for you .. love dee xo