Is he for real?

Hi peeps can you help? I met a guy at uni who caught my eye because he was always caught him looking at me. Anyway every time we spoke he would make odd comments. On one occasion he was talking about his previous employment in the army, I asked if he had ever killed anyone and he said well thats something you and I can discuss alone. Another class mate asked I we knew each other long and I was about to say no and he said yes we did. Over Easter he asked me to meet him when uni was closed to do some studying, I thought it was odd because no-one wants to be at uni in the holidays.
He asked for my number and we also exchanged e-mail addresses. We got talking and he was going on about how pretty I was, but I have had to bad previous relationships so I was prickly with him and told him not to call me that.

Anyway he said he just want to be friends because he liked me and that he did not want to sleep with me.

As time went on we spoke online about how our studying was going. One day he asked me when I was going to invite him round for dinner and I told him I don't cook for people and he said he was not people. So I said why don't you cook for me as I thought that would put him off. He invited me round the next day and we met for lunch I even bought my 9 month old daughter and he was really good with her.

A couple of moths went by and I would just say hello to him and not much else as I was worried about being hurt again and feeling a bit standoffish with people.

We meet on the way home one day and he invited me around for coffee. We had a chat and he told me how much he liked me and that he wanted to help me as he can tell im not happy. He tried to seduce me and we ended up kissing and had a bit of a fumble but we did not have sex. He wanted to but I told him I don't just go around shagging people. He told me that it was not just sex to him and that im special and that he does not go around inviting women round all the time. And he doesnt want us to drift apart and would like to progress on the same path.

I told him I would think about it and he asked when he could see me again. That was four weeks ago and ive spoken a few times to him online but apart from that we don't call each other. I did send him a text to tell him I do like him and im not going to let past hurt get in the way and he thanked me for the message online.I tried to arrange to meet him again on two occasions and he said i should come before 4pm as he had to go to leeds, and when i rang him he never aswered the phone and on the other occasion i left his number at home.Sometimes he ignores me when i speak to him online i don't know if he is busy or just rude.I texted him on two occasions and he never replied to my texts, so ive not bothered to keep texting again.

He has had money problems and was looking for a job, but ive not heard from him for about 10 days now.Im not going to bother calling him though, as i don't want to be another doormat. Do you think he was using me?

Hi

Hello, this guy sounds just like a guy i met a few months ago. He lied to be pretending to be someone important and was always creating drama, like the 'i used to work for the army story' . He told me he would take me to Figi and even printed out etickets for me, we ended up missing the plane the day we were due to go on hols. All his fault of course. What drew my attention to your blog is that he had a Leeds accent and had money problems and was always preying on vunerable women. He claimed to be half Italian and went by the name of Gerard Dickinson-Dichenza, he was a complete and utter physcho if you ask me. Take care of yourself and steer clear of men like this.

Oh no!!

He's just crazy. I don't really call it "using". Trust me if he was using you he would have contacted you. Cuz if he really wanted to have sex with you he would want to try and see you again.But since he is acting like a little boy and ignoring you, just leave him alone.You can do better and your no where near a doormat.All you need right now is the love from the one person you know would always be there, your beautiful daughter and when the time is right someone would cross your path.Then when that happens your life would be filled with love and happiness. I really hope things work out well for you.

Yes he was +++++++

I am sorry to have to tell you that this guy is a predator - you are in a vulnerable position, having a young child and all.I know, because I have been there - and I am a Graduate - I am not daft, either!
We all love to have male attention - and it is healthy. The best thing to do is to 'fight from a position of strength.' By that, I mean make sure you are not perceived as someone who is needy. You probably aren't - because you had the sense to say 'no' to this opportunist.
He was probably shagging some other girl (because he could), when you rang.And, yes, he is being bloody rude. You are bright, and strong - his sort do not like that, and I get the feeling you know this already...I have now reached a point in my life, where I feel good about myself
I have spent so many hours wasted on men like this, because I have never been validated by my family - only evr critiscised. My new partner is loving, accepting, and he loves and adores me for who I am. You deserve, and will meet such a man, but only when you ditch men like this!!! Good luck, honey!

Yes he was !!!!

yes he was !!!! he might have found someone else .