I don't think he was abused
I don't know if there is a right or wrong to this - some women just feel natural about suckling kids, no matter how old. Breast feeding is satisfying, but it is not a sexual satisfaction, more a nurturing thing. My boyfriend loves breasts, and many men find lactation sexy. There is a slight shift in context between women who lactate and breastfeed children through a primal need to nurture, and men and women who wish to indulge in Adult Nursing. There is a support group on yahoo.com called ANSL, which is a group for Adult Nursing couples, and people who are seeking Adult Nursing Relationships. Many women who do this are happy to nurse men and/ or women as a nurturing thing, some as a sexual thing. You have to make up your mind about how you want this relationship to go, sexually. If you feel it is crossing too many boundaries, you have the right to say 'no'. Exercise it. If you want to continue, then relax. It is not a terrible thing to do - there are so many sexual practices that are dangerous, painful and humiliating. This is safe, as long as you don't have HIV - HIV can be passed on through breast milk. Your boyfriend loves your breasts, and is excited by suckling them.Ask yourself if this is OK or not. It is YOUR decision, and if you say 'no,' he then has the choice whether to move on, or be content with what you are comfortable with. If you like him loving your breasts, then you should decide how long he should suckle. He may like this - you can tell him to stop, that he has 'had enough'. It can be a role play thing, where you decide the boundaries- this may arouse him and he should then give something back - God knows, you need something back - what floats your boat?what do YOU want him to do to turn you on? Ask him. It MUST be a two way streetRemember, it's not all about him....
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