Am i a virgin?

Heeey. I haven't posted on here for about a year. I am 16 and I was with this guy for 2 years and we were in love, however the relationship got pretty sadistic towards the end.
We never had sex, and then we split up for about 3 months.
A couple of days ago he suggested we give it another go. We were both still virgins. Then yesterday we were hanging out in his room talking, and we had a 'moment'. He penetrated me but pulled out after about 10 thrusts. He didn't ejaculate. Also, I didn't bleed but that might be because my hymen may not be intact. After, he suddenly didn't feel that he loved me any more. I think it might have been too much for him in one day.
The whole situation got really messy, because my best friend who is also my ex felt really hurt that I'd gone back to someone who had treated me so badly, and he doesn't want to talk to me anymore. So I have lost my only friend, my boyfriend has penetrated me and left, and I have no idea if I'm a virgin or not. And if I'm not, how the hell am I meant to deal with this situation. I am tempted to ask him to do it properly just for the sake of establishing what I am.
Thankyou for your time.

No

How do you feel about no longer being a virgin. And was he mad that you didn't bleed.

Crap

I feel pretty bad about not being a virgin, especially since he's being a pr*ck now. He wasn't mad that I didn't bleed though.

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You arent a virgin, congratulations. Penetration = sex my friend.

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no you are no longer a virgin because he penetrated you

Your virginity

Hi Lolly252. I've had this problem a little while ago actually so I want to be the one to clarify it for you (sorry everyone, I got dibs on this one :lol.

Technically speaking, you are not a virgin. It doesn't really matter how many times the boy has thrusted into you; he could have done it only 2 times or 20 times but either way it still means you've had sexual intercourse as women lose their virginity as soon as a penis enters the vagina. I'm sorry if it's not the answer you wanted, but I hope you feel better knowing where you stand now.

I wouldn't ask him to do it properly because he sounds like a total ... and you'd be degrading yourself by letting him have sex with you again. It's sad you've lost your virginity in such an awkward situation, but at least remember that the next guy you have sex with should be worth the hassle.

I had the exact same issue; my hymen didn't break either so that could mean that yours is either still intact (but it doesn't affect whether or not you're a virgin), it was previously broken by an inrelated incident and you could have mistaken the bleeding for a period, or you're one of the small percentage of women who weren't born with one (I don't know this for sure, a friend told me that not many women are born without hymens).

I hope things get better with your best friend ex. However, bear in mind that even though he's upset, if he cares about you enough he'll come back to you and apologise for his rash behaviour (or expect you to apologise for going back to the other guy. Blokes aren't that great with apologies unfortunately).

If you're concerned about anything else, feel free to private message me.

Thanks.

Thankyou to both of you, but especially Lythefairy. It is better knowing where i stand, although I am devastated that I'm not a virgin. My best friend has given up on me. I told him I would try and stay away from this boy, and he told me he didn't give a ... I have no support from anyone so I might not pull it off. Anyway, thankyou for replying. I won't let him do it again. At least I am 16. It could have been a lot worse. xLollyx

Well that sucks

If he's given up on you when you're feeling bad enough as it is, it just proves he wasn't worth the "best friend" title in the first place. Particularly as this is a time when you need the support of your closest friends most. Do you have any other trustworthy friends you can confide in until he finishes his little temper tantrum? Whether or not he decides to grow up (I'm sorry for insulting your best friend, but he's certainly not winning any "Friendship Awards" any time soon), it's always good to have other close mates to stick by you through the best and worst.

If you find there's no one around for you to rely on, you can wager that we'll be just a click away to help you out. I know it's not as tempting as a very close friendship, but it's always available whenever you want it. I know how you feel though, I'm only a year older than you and I was really disappointed when I lost my virginity as it was to someone who didn't treat me as well I deserved. But at least you can take it as a learning experience and have one more name for the almighty "Book of ... That's how I like to see it anyway.

And always remember never to be fooled by guys who claim they're clean of STIs without having some proper evidence. I made that mistake and had to have an STI test myself. Not good. Came back negative though so that's a plus. Also NEVER feel pressured to have sex even if you think you're madly in love with the boy because if he cares about you, he'll wait until you want it.

Sorry if I sound patronising. Just know a lot of girls who've made these mistakes, particularly as they tend to make "exceptions" for certain blokes. Haha.

All the best! And glad I could help