Boyfriend hates ...

I'm 16 and I have this new boyfriend who I've been with for about a month. He has a huge aversion to porn and thinks it's extrememly degrading to women. When I went down on him for the first time I was there for about 5 minutes before his hands started going numb. (?!) It started spreading to his arms and then we had to stop. He also said he didn't like the 'up and down' motion, so I had to be a little more creative. At one point I told him to look at my face while I did it to see if that got him going, but he told me that looking at my face whilst I was doing it made him feel sick. I was absolutely devastated about that, but he was really apologetic after.

We tried again next time we were together and we were doing it for ages but nothing happened, and eventually he just said that it wasn't gonna happen and I should stop. When we tried the time after that he said he didn't get anything from it at all.

He's not as big as I'm used to, (6 inches long and about 1 1/2 inches thick), and he doesn't get very hard, so that might be having an effect. It could be my technique, but my last boyfriend had been with lots of girls and said I was amazing. My boyfriend insists that it's nothing to do with me, he's just never desired ... He said he'd much rather go down on me, which I suppose is good, except I really want to please him, and enjoy doing it myself.

Is there anyway that I can try to make him enjoy ... I know that the enjoyment has more to do with the atmosphere and mood than the actual action, so I think that he isn't enjoying it because he hates porn. If anyone knows what I can do, I'd really appreciate the help. Thanks.

xLollyx

Ok

Is he the same age as you?? No offence but he might be intimidated that at only 16 you seem to be quite sexually experienced and are in a way trying to "teach" him. He might find it uncomfortable that you have been with other boys and knowing that you've done this to other men might put him off.
Try seeing things from his side and if not, don't do it. unless you love giving them or something then i'd leave it until he feels comfortable.

We can not make a person into what we want.

looly252

Your new b/f has a problem with his biggest sex organ that is between his ears. And it no doubt is carrying lots of cultural and perhaps religious NO!,s NO!,s about oral sex being A-Okay. And only he can change how he feels about how he wants to love a woman or be loved by her. So go slow, and be gentle and kind to him as it's a whole new sexual territory that he is venturing into.

Censoring.

All the censored words are meant to say ... . Sorry.

Omg! not again!

The censored words are meant to say "bl*wjobs". There. Sorry again.