Sex help

I was just wondering if anyone could help me... me and my bf dont have sex very often mostly because i can never be bothed. i find that while we're havin sex that my mind will stray onto other things and then i just lose the mood. i really enjoy when we fool around and i even enjoy sex up to a certain point. we do try and experiment and even tried anal the other day but it was too sore so we had to stop. is there anything wrong with me or my sex drive? its not that my bfs a bad lover it just seems to be something wrong with me! please help!

Meds and settings

Are you on any medications? Certain medications (even birth control I believe) can lower your sex drive. If you want to try going at sex again, foreplay is key. Be in an environment where you wont be disturbed. Somewhere comfortable, and private where you two can be together and fool around. Maybe start with a massage or some candles or body oils. Just relax, and then ease into foreplay. Lots of foreplay will loosen you up and turn you on enough that you'll be ready to have sex! If your lack of sex drive persists, you could see a doctor, or even just do everything you need to do that day before you plan on having sex so there will be less to think about!