Hmm....
first of all id just like to suggest that if you think it will hurt you emotionaly then you probably shouldnt be considering doing it, but thats just my oppinion you have to make up your own mind about that.
as for bleeding, that doesnt always happen, in fact in my experiance it usualy doesnt though i have known one or 2 girls to bleed a little during the sex though it sometimes isnt noticable untill after youve finished and the penis is removed.
as for how deep it has to go, i honnestly dont know i guess it could be different for every girl but it might not be, youll probably find that they guy will put as much of it in as he can so you might not have to worrie about it.
as to it hurting phisically, id say it would have to be a yes, ive never known a girl who hasnt said it hurt her first time but i might be wrong and some girls might not feel pain.
finaly it can cause trouble in the relationship if one of you isnt ready for it, you may end up feeling like something was taken from you that you didnt want to loose which can lead to you resenting the guy. in my experiance though it can also make a relationship a lot closer, i have been with several women for their first time and eventhough we have since split up we are still close freinds. all in all i supose it comes down to the actual experiance itself it tends to be a more special even for woman and if guys dont accept that then i guess it could cause problems. but thats a risk you have to take. if your ready for it and he is the guy you want to do it with then you shouldnt have any problems, just be sure its what you want basicly.
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