Ex girlfriend issues!!!

Im a new member and i was so impressed with the advice given by some of you i thought maybe you could help with my problem.

Im 19 and have been with my boyfriend for nearly a year. I love him very much and im completely happy apart from one thing thats driving me crazy!!!!
He went out with a girl for two years before me and i cant stop comparing myself to her. She was very out going and although i would think of myself as confident im a little shy in the bedroom. He never brings her up, hes not like that, but im stupid enough to ask and that makes things worse. I now know that they would play dress ups, have sex in public, make videos and he also loves dirty talk which i find embarassing. I also know from a mutual friend that they were still having sex every day even after two years! we're aleady down to about twice a week...
Hes told me many times that hes much happier with me and he now realises he never really loved her. I believe him and i can tell that i make him happy but i cant help thinking that he wishes i was more of a sex kitten like her.
please help! i want to be more confident and more kinky and to stop competing.
any cheeky ideas would be great!

thanks so much
sarah xxx

This might help

Sarah,
You need to change the way you think about his ex. Like he said, he didn't love her is something guys would'nt say without meaning it. Just think, did she really love him? She probably only wanted him for his sex, but you don't do you. Instead of thinking how great she was compared to you in your realtioship with him, turn that into hate. it is the best way to stop you thinking how good she is. Think about their relationship, the way she treated him by not having a bond like u guys do.
I can't think what else to say, so i'd better go now. Good luck and be happy!
Belinda.C (from Tasmania)

Just be yourself

Hej Sarah!
I think that you should try to enjoy the relationship without being worried or trying to compare or compete your self and his ex.She is just an ex a past and you are his future and present so you are in advance and that should make you more confindent to stay what you are. You are what you are you are in a way special and he loves you and you dont need to try to be something else because he knows you and loves you for what you are.Maybe the ex girlfriend and him were having more sex but it is not all in sex, there is much more then then. Maybe they didnt have much in common so all they had was sex to fill in the holes in the their relationship. Just be what you are , he is happy with you and you with him so that is all what matters really. having sex is very normal and i think everyday is a more like weird? Somethimes a hug , a kiss or a touch is much better....
Just enjoy what you have.
i hope reading this will help a little
Steffany.

Being yourself

is really good advice, don't over-analyse, just let things develop naturally.