Eating out, feeling up, fingering...

Me and my girl friend go at it every tuesday and thursday when we get to tgether due to are busy schedule. We have't had sex yet but I wanna know few techniques that I could use to finger her, and also a few techniques to eat her out, and also another few techniques to feel her up like playing with her breasts and nipples. Are there any good techniques?

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circles with your tongue and limit the direct contact with the clit, but to be honest you'll know what you're doing right and wrong by her response. If not ask her to let you know, it's part of it !

Nipples

Try sucking on her nipples. My boyfriend does it to me during foreplay and it drives me nuts. Doesn't work on all women but it's worth a try.

Don't stop!!

When going down on her; initially doing the same "move" will probably be uncomfortable and/or de-sensitise her (esp her clit area). BUT, once youve got her going- DON"T stop! I find that as an orgasm builds it will easily receed (even if I am reually close) if my partner changes what he is doing. And maybe encourage her to sit on your face? then she'll be able to guide you....

BEST TIP I've LEARNT....
pressure on the entire clit (well not on the tiny bit that you can actually see-the bit that looks like a little pink blip) can make her have waves after she has come...= GREAT!! Us ladies can have multiple orgasms, orgasms within orgasms, tiny orgasms and earthquake orgasms... even still be clenching and riding that wave without your "intervention"..so aim to take her there..

I feel that after about 7 mins a female should be able to orgasm (if she is educated about her body and proactive when it comes to her pleasure. After 7 mins (of stimulation) sexual frustration begins to set in and that orgasm that was almost there can vanish completly...

The clit is like an iceberg-the bulk is unseen. E.g. the clitoris can be accessed through the vagina- the infamous "G-Spote is actually the clitoris.

In the womb, all babies start out as female. When exposed to more testosterone, the clitoris becomes a penis. So imagine having all the sensitivity (i.e. nerve endings) contained on your penis's head crammed into a clitoris...

Therefore the golden rule is....be gentle!!! and direct clitoral contact (without skin protecting it) isn't nice! (would feel like your penis head would after your orgasm-uncomfortably sensitive right?)

Probably FAR too much info so...
Encourage her to give you feedback,
worship her entire body (don't go straight for her pussy! start at the top and work your way down)-make her feel like a goddess and lastly...
have fun discovering and exploring each other.

Whooo long post...hope it makes sense!!!

Erm..

blondhalo - make sure you know what you're posting is true or you'll only confuse/misinform people.

1) the "g-spot" is not the clitoris but the 'urethral sponge' which when stimulated with pressure may or may not produce pleasure or an orgasm. most women (~90%) can't orgasm this way, ~10% can and a higher percentage find it pleasurable but not orgasmic.

2) for the first 7 weeks after conception the embryo is sexually undifferentiated - neither male nor female. it has a 'genital tubercle' which is SIMILAR to female anatomy but still neither sex - the tubercle differentiates into male anatomy is the SRY gene and testosterone are present and develops into female anatomy if they are not. So you were partly right I guess

Your tips are good though, thanks