Rate, I've just recently turned 14 and I'm a virgin.... unfortunatly. I've been going up town a few times a week for about a year now for the night life; nightclubs, pubs, etc. And I understand the club culture quite well. You know, get pissed, pilled up or whatever makes u happy and ... some random drunk slag.

I however av been totally unable to pull off the last part. Its not like im ugly or anything and i look really older than I am. So in theory i shud have no problem pulling a lass, id say in the last year about at least 20 lasses have come onto me and ive bottled it. And been like "sorry luv, it turns out im gay" and got out of the way asap.

I went out this last night coz it was bank holiday and towns packed n usually a laugh, and i got tlking to this lass, we started getting off (making out) and we exchanged numbers. we have been texting each other all day and she wants to come round to mine while my parents are at work and "watch a film" but I know she wants some action. I'm ok with that and i was like, "yeh come round wednesday if u want".

So she's coming round, and to be perfectly honest im ... myself coz im a virgin and have not an idea of what to do, you know sexually and i need some tips. Dont give me "talk to her about it" coz thats not going to happen.

So give me the basics please, and dont give me rubbish coz i really dont wanna embarrass myself i come across as a virgin. U can chuck come cool stuff in there to that might help me out =]

Thanks, Stevie G.

hey darls we both know why you havent done this dont we?? coz basically youre a nicer guy than what youre talking....cant fool me!!! i know you look cool going to clubs etc but of course youre out of your depth - looking older isnt enough!! ok so how old is this lass thats coming round?? if she is about your age by all means have a little fun - you dont need to jump straight into it!!( pardon the pun!!) its normal to take quite a number of sessions together to get as far as intercourse!!! really!! and in the meantime you gert to know each others bodies and what each of like lots of touching and fun stuff and by the time you get to it it really is easy - coz you know how each other respond by then!! so come on youre a nice guy get yourself into a younger crowd and have some fun - take care xx

I totally agree with the comments of cupsoverflow, she has offered you some very good advice that I suggest you take.

I also suggest that you completely rethink your attitude towards women, as this could explain why, despite your best efforts, you have not yet managed to 'f*ck some random drunk slag'. Women deserve a hell of a lot more respect than that, and if they choose to sleep with you then I think you are very lucky indeed, given your disgusting attitude.

Also, give a good deal of thought to the massive amount of trouble the woman will be in from sleeping with you, a child. I suggest you find someone of a similar age to learn about sex together and legally.

But if you intend to go ahead with this other woman, be safe, be respectful, and don't put your pleasure first.

I'm not going to tell you what you want to hear, but what you need to hear.
Apart from the obvious fact that you are under age, it sounds to me like you don't know how to be respectful of girls,and it sounds like you see them as something to use for your own selfish pleasure.OR - you are scared of not seeming manly, or 'tough.'
You know what? if this girl is 'wanting some action', it's my guess she already knows you are a virgin- and lots of girls find that attractive. You may be worrying about nothing - she's making all the moves, so the pressure is off there. But - Does she know how old you are? She could get into serious trouble.

Assuming that you are going to 'get it on', and I suspect you will, regardless of me pointing out the boring bits, you need to a) Buy and USE condoms - even if she says she's on the pill - and you don't want a sexually transmitted Disease (STD). b)make her feel welcome and relaxed. Put on a good film, and snuggle up, and the rest will happen naturally - gently ask her what she would like you to do - every girl has their own preferences, but most like to be kissed, and then let her guide you. She will respect you more for that.
The most important thing is to like her, and tell her you are inexperienced - you don't have to be in love with someone to have sex, but you should be respectful, considerate, and, in your case,just relax. If you don't feel ready to 'lose your cherry', then say so - in a nice way. Say something like 'I would like to take more time to get to know you first.' If she gets funny about this, she isn't the girl for you, for your first time. If she respects this, you have got yourself a decent girl.Good Luck